"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Single on valentiens day?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
Ahhh the good old days, if only I'd knew better back then.....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
Anyhow, I'm a bit negative about Valentine's Day. Like Christmas I think it is over-commercialized and I'm just bugged by any obligation to get a gift or make a big deal. But I feel this way about most holidays, including my own birthday, so I guess that is just how I am.
I have a girl now whom I'm sure would want to be with me on Valentine's Day, but I don't like her much and don't want to lead her on any more than I already have. At the same time I'm not that motivated to find another girl because of V-Day, because again I think it is bullsh*t. But maybe not being in love makes me unromantic. Or it could be the DJ mindset that makes me unromantic (because I thought of myself as romantic in the AFC days.)
Oh well, screw Valentine's Day.
Which company do you work for?Otherwise... You are correct when saying that u are unromantic because u are not in love.... i use to be like that... i actually never WANTED to ever be in love, eventhough i was always a "romantic" guy when it came to girls, but in a sedusing way that is
But dont worry about your TRUE romantic side coming out one day when u DO fall in love, because when u are in love with a girl, being romantic becomes 1st nature Laterz...
Desdinova
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Those situations are always weird. I was the same way with one chick. I got a call from her "sister" (I don't know how she could've been this girl's sister because she had a british accent). Anyway, I got a message that the chick I was leading on was in the hospital. Personally, I couldn't have cared less if she had died. Reluctantly, I went to the hospital. I showed up empty handed, and spent 1 hour with her. Hell, that was enough for her to continue being led on.
If you want to know what happened in the end, she showed up at my regular hangout with another date to try and make me jealous. I didn't really give a 5hit and just ignored it and had fun. At the end of the night, she approached me in tears. That's when I figured enough is enough. The next day I put an end to it all.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Dodging those Joberg ghettos on the way home are a real laugh.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.