Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It's alright in theory but the question is how often they can get away for a tryst. You'll more than likely need to adjust your schedule to meet hers.muscleman said:I know it's advised getting with single moms for obvious reasons, but what are your thoughts on a casual sex with one as long as she knows it's nothing more? Or is that still an unnecessary complication?
There's a lot of guys in the forum who seem to believe that any type of sexual contact you have with a woman binds you to her like some type of horny lap dog. If you just want to play hit and run I say go right ahead. The thing with single mothers though is their limited amount of availability which effect spontaneity. Do you think you'd ever be able to call her on a random night for a quick booty call?muscleman said:So I read some of the other material here and I'm only looking at this from the perspective of gettin some. No dating ever. Just some casual sex once, maybe twice. I would be completely up front about it and if it's a go it's a go, if not forget it.
Maybe I should just give it a rest it seems complicated already and I haven't even done anything.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Francisco d'Anconia said:There's a lot of guys in the forum who seem to believe that any type of sexual contact you have with a woman binds you to her like some type of horny lap dog...
See, told 'ya. It's not that what DevanE said wasn't necessarily true but you had said that all you wanted to do is bed them without getting into a relationship and he's talking about raising some other man's offspring.DevanE said:...You don't EVER want to get in a relationship with a single-mother because frankly you DON'T need to raise another man's child it's his job. You also have to remember to keep ALL contact AWAY from the child, pretty much you don't exist to this child because once he/she sees you a couple of times "leaving" in & out of their mother's room he/she will begin to associate you as taking a role and begin to develop behaviors associated with the parent so you'd rather NOT get in a situation like this to begin with and develop that false sense of security in that child nor would you let a child THINK that it's ok for there mother to be with a man they don't really know. You get what I'm saying...?
Yeah but muscleman straight away said casual sex and nothing more without getting with them for obvious reasons and the first thing you bring up is relationships with them. C'mon, it's pretty funny, isn't it?DevanE said:Cisco I don't really follow what your saying...? because I DID mention about his certain situation as well. ...