So I was supposed to be going out with this girl this week (one of 2 I was supposed to see, though I doubt I'll see either of them, the other one is a horrible flake). When we were planning the date she mentioned that she felt bad that we'd only be hanging out for a few hours (basically she had to work til the early evening and had to wake up really early the next day). We still would have hung out like 2-3 hours, and grabbed a couple of drinks. Well anyway, doesn't matter anymore since she cancelled on me because she forgot she promised her friend she'd go party (hotel party or something). She offered a raincheck for next week (no specific day, just next week) and said "at least we could have a actual date" (I asked what she meant by that and her answer was "more than a few hours"). I just don't know why she thinks dates need to last longer than a few hours. Thoughts?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Since when is 2 hours not enough for a date?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Maybe she was making up an excuse, maybe not. Who knows. Try again if you like her. If not, the next her.
My thoughts: don't worry about it. Plenty of other chicks out there.Kal0051 said:
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Let her raincheck you, meet her for drinks, lots of kino & booze (for her), and in the sack you go. Shes right, it's better without the clock ticking away with a 2 hr deadline.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
yeah, guess it's a good thing. She contacted me today with a specific day she wants to go out next week. Unfortunately I couldn't give her a answer since I don't have my schedule for next week yet. Told her I'd let her know by the end of the week.horaholic said:
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
dont do what we criticize about women doing man, get the scedule info and close the deal. shes ripe for the picking!