So I was supposed to be going out with this girl this week (one of 2 I was supposed to see, though I doubt I'll see either of them, the other one is a horrible flake). When we were planning the date she mentioned that she felt bad that we'd only be hanging out for a few hours (basically she had to work til the early evening and had to wake up really early the next day). We still would have hung out like 2-3 hours, and grabbed a couple of drinks. Well anyway, doesn't matter anymore since she cancelled on me because she forgot she promised her friend she'd go party (hotel party or something). She offered a raincheck for next week (no specific day, just next week) and said "at least we could have a actual date" (I asked what she meant by that and her answer was "more than a few hours"). I just don't know why she thinks dates need to last longer than a few hours. Thoughts?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Since when is 2 hours not enough for a date?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Maybe she was making up an excuse, maybe not. Who knows. Try again if you like her. If not, the next her.
My thoughts: don't worry about it. Plenty of other chicks out there.Kal0051 said:
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Let her raincheck you, meet her for drinks, lots of kino & booze (for her), and in the sack you go. Shes right, it's better without the clock ticking away with a 2 hr deadline.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yeah, guess it's a good thing. She contacted me today with a specific day she wants to go out next week. Unfortunately I couldn't give her a answer since I don't have my schedule for next week yet. Told her I'd let her know by the end of the week.horaholic said:
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
dont do what we criticize about women doing man, get the scedule info and close the deal. shes ripe for the picking!