So I was supposed to be going out with this girl this week (one of 2 I was supposed to see, though I doubt I'll see either of them, the other one is a horrible flake). When we were planning the date she mentioned that she felt bad that we'd only be hanging out for a few hours (basically she had to work til the early evening and had to wake up really early the next day). We still would have hung out like 2-3 hours, and grabbed a couple of drinks. Well anyway, doesn't matter anymore since she cancelled on me because she forgot she promised her friend she'd go party (hotel party or something). She offered a raincheck for next week (no specific day, just next week) and said "at least we could have a actual date" (I asked what she meant by that and her answer was "more than a few hours"). I just don't know why she thinks dates need to last longer than a few hours. Thoughts?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Since when is 2 hours not enough for a date?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Maybe she was making up an excuse, maybe not. Who knows. Try again if you like her. If not, the next her.
My thoughts: don't worry about it. Plenty of other chicks out there.Kal0051 said:
Joe Stud
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Let her raincheck you, meet her for drinks, lots of kino & booze (for her), and in the sack you go. Shes right, it's better without the clock ticking away with a 2 hr deadline.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
yeah, guess it's a good thing. She contacted me today with a specific day she wants to go out next week. Unfortunately I couldn't give her a answer since I don't have my schedule for next week yet. Told her I'd let her know by the end of the week.horaholic said:
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
dont do what we criticize about women doing man, get the scedule info and close the deal. shes ripe for the picking!