"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Simple But Effective Phone Tip

ENIGMA16

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Developed this out of some job seeking tips. If you're calling a girl, and you're nervous about it, then get up and move around! Do stuff while you're on the phone with her; clean up, cook, but do something! I also suggest calling before you leave for somewhere.

This way you'll be less invested in the conversation and you will sound busier. You will also have a legitimate excuse to hang up the phone so you're not lying when you say you have to go.

I know, simple and stupid but it helped me when I was nervous about it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yogibear

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actually sounds like a very very good tip

I'm in an acting class, and one of the things they tell us is to find something to keep busy while onstage when you're not talking. so you dont seem like you're just waiting for your next line, but actually doing something
 

Lion

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Good tip my man, I found this today, the worst thing you can do is sit down nervously in one place. Keep moving and keep it fun
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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