"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Simple But Effective Phone Tip

ENIGMA16

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Developed this out of some job seeking tips. If you're calling a girl, and you're nervous about it, then get up and move around! Do stuff while you're on the phone with her; clean up, cook, but do something! I also suggest calling before you leave for somewhere.

This way you'll be less invested in the conversation and you will sound busier. You will also have a legitimate excuse to hang up the phone so you're not lying when you say you have to go.

I know, simple and stupid but it helped me when I was nervous about it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yogibear

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actually sounds like a very very good tip

I'm in an acting class, and one of the things they tell us is to find something to keep busy while onstage when you're not talking. so you dont seem like you're just waiting for your next line, but actually doing something
 

Lion

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Good tip my man, I found this today, the worst thing you can do is sit down nervously in one place. Keep moving and keep it fun
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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