You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Here are signs which girls might give you if they're attracted to ya:
1) Smile a lot at ya
2) Laugh at all your jokes, even if they're not funny
3) Make lots of eye contact
4) Pupils dilate when looking at you (they dilate naturally though when you drunk or are in dark light)
5) Touch you - like holding your hand or hugging you etc.
6) Brush hair often when chatting to you (could be ambiguous coz they may just be oing it naturally, on the other hand, they could be flustered and nervous)
7) Arms aren't crossed when talking to you
8) Seems jealous when you flirt with other girls
9) Asks your friends about you
10) Tries to make friends with your friends
11) Phones you up and generally wants to be with you
Anyone able to think of more signs? Please post here!
-Makaveli da Don
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
I've noticed when i'm at the bar, every girl i talk to has dilated pupils. I know i'm good looking, however i realize that every girl isn't going to be interested in me!
CobraGT is right. Also, alcohol will also cause the pupils to dilate. What matters most is whether they dilate more than they are normally. Try to judge her normal dilation when she's talking to a friend, ordering a drink, or looking away for a while.
Some women may be showing you all these signs of attractions in a way to lead you on.
So your signs are not realible.!
Have a nice day!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ok, so it might be true that they may be leading you on with those signs too, but some of them are given out by girls who find you attractive. You've just got to learn to differentiate between the girls who are leading you on and the sincere ones.
I honestly don't think it's possible to find out if they're leading you on or not, unless you ask for their number, they give it, then they go out on a date with you. If they do that, it shows they're interested in you.
Nice list... if only some of those things would happen.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Or maybe it is heavy LSD use and she hallucinated you into Brad Pitt. That would explain the sex.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It shouldn't be that difficult to differentiate between girls who are really interested and those who are trying to lead you on.
First, if a girl has sex with you, it doesn't necessarily mean she's interested... she could be using you for sex! (really, there are sluts out there like that!)
Now, I'd expect that if a girl is leading you on, she probably doesn't give a #$@% about her behavior around you. Therefore, watch out for girls who are totally at ease and not at all nervous! Why? Because, if a girl is nervous, you give her that thrill that she had better be her best around you or you'll totally diss her!
There are also differences in flirting between player girls and genuinely interested girls. Player girls tend to flirt more, especially more in public. Interested girls try to get your attention more in private or clandestinely. It's that feeling that she's trying to share a little something with you and you only. Strictly Confidential, in other words.
Originally posted by BGMan: First, if a girl has sex with you, it doesn't necessarily mean she's interested... she could be using you for sex! (really, there are sluts out there like that!)
I know. I was alluding to that when I wrote the whole "may, possibly, maybe, perhaps" thing.
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CASANOVA
"Always love thy enemies, just in case all your friends turn out to be a bunch of bastards."
"Whenever evil befalls us, we ought to ask ourselves, after the first suffering, how we can turn it into good. So shall we take occasion, from one bitter root, to raise perhaps many flowers."
Leigh Hunt
"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Originally posted by BGMan: It shouldn't be that difficult to differentiate between girls who are really interested and those who are trying to lead you on.
First, if a girl has sex with you, it doesn't necessarily mean she's interested... she could be using you for sex! (really, there are sluts out there like that!)
Now, I'd expect that if a girl is leading you on, she probably doesn't give a #$@% about her behavior around you. Therefore, watch out for girls who are totally at ease and not at all nervous! Why? Because, if a girl is nervous, you give her that thrill that she had better be her best around you or you'll totally diss her!
There are also differences in flirting between player girls and genuinely interested girls. Player girls tend to flirt more, especially more in public. Interested girls try to get your attention more in private or clandestinely. It's that feeling that she's trying to share a little something with you and you only. Strictly Confidential, in other words.
I realize this post is old. But, something about the whole pupils dilating thing.
I think that we all recognize this subconciously. I could always tell by the 'way' a girl looked at me if she liked me. Reading about the pupils dilating just sorta clarified it for me.
So I wouldn't concentrate too much on pupil size, more on the general way she is lookin at ya. Sorry if this is too vague.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
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