"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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toasttopper1879

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Today at work a girl had lost her pen so I offered her mine,sarcastically wrote her name on it and said she could keep it.
She went all happy told me I was so sweet and she could kiss me.
Last thing anyone wants to be called is sweet I think cos its a journey to the friends zone territory.So I must remember to think before I act.
I maybe saved face with the answer of"no kissing infront of the other staff,I'll see yer in the cupboards in 5 mins".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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flyinshark

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I dunno if being called sweet means an automatic trip to the friends zone.

A girl called me sweety today at work...what does THAT mean?

Let's discuss (a la PvssyEater) :)
 
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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
Today at work a girl had lost her pen so I offered her mine,sarcastically wrote her name on it and said she could keep it.
She went all happy told me I was so sweet and she could kiss me.
Last thing anyone wants to be called is sweet I think cos its a journey to the friends zone territory.So I must remember to think before I act.
I maybe saved face with the answer of"no kissing infront of the other staff,I'll see yer in the cupboards in 5 mins".
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Nothing wrong with this situation. You had a very good comeback. I find that being 'sweet' in combination with a little bit of C&F works wonders. Stop worrying about being sweet if you are able to come back the way you did in this case.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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