"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Shyness can be overcome?

rrrrr

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I post this here because I'm one of probably many here that battle shyness:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20178762/

Shyness is probably the #1 thing that can hold you down in life. It's held me down and it still does. But as I get older I overcome my shyness and push myself. So I think as you get older you'll overcome it, but if you make a concentrated effort to do so, you will overcome shyness quicker.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alphamale1821

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You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
Shyness is a deeply-rooted personality trait. You don't lose your shyness overnight- literally- by reading a few articles on self-confidence.
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
What you have written here dude is right, every night I affirm in my mind that (1) I speak in a confident powerful and deep tone of voice (2) All of the hottest babes are attracted to me like a magnet and desperately desire to be with me (3) I approach every hot babe that I want to meet, the changes happened immediately. :up:
 

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Yeah, it can be overcome. In like 8th grade when I moved to my new school I was like one of the shyest kids there. Now my senior year is starting and I'm much less shy. Not to say that I'm completely unshy, but I'm a lot better than I used to be.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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zerocelcius

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Shyness is hard to overcome, but not impossible. It takes interactions with people. Get a customer support job and watch it disappear quick, but it might be replaced with loathing...

IF you haven’t done it yet print out the DJ Boot Camp and honestly do it. Keep a Journal on here. Label it your boot camp. I was and still am shy at times and the DJ Boot Camp helped me. Also I have to deal with tons of people now and it helps a lot.

We are all shy at times but it, like fear, should never control your actions.

One thing that I tell my self if I get a bit shy are scared is: "you’re only going to live once."

Look in the DJ Bible and Tips section and try them. You don't have to always copy other people but try it until you don't need it anymore.

It will come.
 
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