"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Shyness can be overcome?

rrrrr

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I post this here because I'm one of probably many here that battle shyness:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20178762/

Shyness is probably the #1 thing that can hold you down in life. It's held me down and it still does. But as I get older I overcome my shyness and push myself. So I think as you get older you'll overcome it, but if you make a concentrated effort to do so, you will overcome shyness quicker.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alphamale1821

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You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
Shyness is a deeply-rooted personality trait. You don't lose your shyness overnight- literally- by reading a few articles on self-confidence.
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
What you have written here dude is right, every night I affirm in my mind that (1) I speak in a confident powerful and deep tone of voice (2) All of the hottest babes are attracted to me like a magnet and desperately desire to be with me (3) I approach every hot babe that I want to meet, the changes happened immediately. :up:
 

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Yeah, it can be overcome. In like 8th grade when I moved to my new school I was like one of the shyest kids there. Now my senior year is starting and I'm much less shy. Not to say that I'm completely unshy, but I'm a lot better than I used to be.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Shyness is hard to overcome, but not impossible. It takes interactions with people. Get a customer support job and watch it disappear quick, but it might be replaced with loathing...

IF you haven’t done it yet print out the DJ Boot Camp and honestly do it. Keep a Journal on here. Label it your boot camp. I was and still am shy at times and the DJ Boot Camp helped me. Also I have to deal with tons of people now and it helps a lot.

We are all shy at times but it, like fear, should never control your actions.

One thing that I tell my self if I get a bit shy are scared is: "you’re only going to live once."

Look in the DJ Bible and Tips section and try them. You don't have to always copy other people but try it until you don't need it anymore.

It will come.
 
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