"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Shyness can be overcome?

rrrrr

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I post this here because I'm one of probably many here that battle shyness:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20178762/

Shyness is probably the #1 thing that can hold you down in life. It's held me down and it still does. But as I get older I overcome my shyness and push myself. So I think as you get older you'll overcome it, but if you make a concentrated effort to do so, you will overcome shyness quicker.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Alphamale1821

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You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
Shyness is a deeply-rooted personality trait. You don't lose your shyness overnight- literally- by reading a few articles on self-confidence.
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
You can overcome your shyness right now. Putting a time restraint on yourself is self limiting. However as long as you are slowly making progress that's what counts. I simply made my change of a goofy guy to a alpha in the matters of hours reading about self confidence. I woke up a different person, voice tone was deeper, alpha walk, body language the whole deal. It is possible but you have to have the right tools an open mind and the most important BELIEVE that you can do it.
What you have written here dude is right, every night I affirm in my mind that (1) I speak in a confident powerful and deep tone of voice (2) All of the hottest babes are attracted to me like a magnet and desperately desire to be with me (3) I approach every hot babe that I want to meet, the changes happened immediately. :up:
 

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Yeah, it can be overcome. In like 8th grade when I moved to my new school I was like one of the shyest kids there. Now my senior year is starting and I'm much less shy. Not to say that I'm completely unshy, but I'm a lot better than I used to be.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Shyness is hard to overcome, but not impossible. It takes interactions with people. Get a customer support job and watch it disappear quick, but it might be replaced with loathing...

IF you haven’t done it yet print out the DJ Boot Camp and honestly do it. Keep a Journal on here. Label it your boot camp. I was and still am shy at times and the DJ Boot Camp helped me. Also I have to deal with tons of people now and it helps a lot.

We are all shy at times but it, like fear, should never control your actions.

One thing that I tell my self if I get a bit shy are scared is: "you’re only going to live once."

Look in the DJ Bible and Tips section and try them. You don't have to always copy other people but try it until you don't need it anymore.

It will come.
 
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