Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Shy versus Not Interested

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ScrewIt

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you cant.

The best indicator of interest that doesnt lie will always be body language, that might tell you a thing or two..or just confuse you! haha good luck

if you want better feedback i suggest giving more details
 

Mjazz

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one girl is kinda shy, but she is always looking at me and smiling. But she has asked a guy out before, WTF
 

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Being_the_Don said:
How can you tell if a woman is shy or just not interested?
the way to tell this is to look at her actions.

example, in convo, a shy girl might not talk much, but u still connect alittle and she puts in some work.

an uninterested girl wouldnt even give u the chance to talk to her.

make a move on a shy girl, and she wont likely resist if she likes you, and if she does, she'll do it playfully, makin u resist

an uninterested girl will make a painfully clear that she doesnt want u touching her.

u have to read her actions to determine if she is really interested or not. if she makes conscious efforts to avoid u, than she is not interested. if she atleast give u the time of day, then there is atleast some interest there.

this are not absolutes, but they are general ideas that apply to most
 

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I know, it is hard to tell sometimes. We use eye contact as the first way (at least I do and I'm sure most of you guys do, too) to show a woman that we're interested. But women don't always make eye contact. Depending on her persoanlity or even social upbringing she may avoid eye contact altogether. So then you have to look for other things like the hair toss. That usually works for me. If a woman gives the hair toss when she walks by me I'll say hi. If she's interested she'll say hi back. But even that some women are too shy to really talk. So what are some ways you can tell if she's shy or not? Or another way to put it: if she's shy how to build her up in those first few minutes you know?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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here it is...........

Mjazz said:
one girl is kinda shy, but she is always looking at me and smiling. But she has asked a guy out before, WTF
if she asked guy before, it means she would do it to you if she also like you enough, in this case she doesnt, or she thinks your man enough to do it yourself.. either way... youve wasted too much time...

YOU SHOULD HAVE ALREADY ASKED and saved yourself the energy..

try this

"I seen you looking at me and smilling, is it because we have something going on between us or is it just wishfull thinking" doesnt matter what she says (unless obvious rejection, most of the time, even if they want to reject you, they wont know how to, so you still proceed "How about dinner or a drink, let me get your number and I will call you" if she still dont know how to reject you she will give it to you, and when you call you want be successfull at setting up a date...

by the way, one time.. i finally landed a date with a 10+ model like 5 or 6 months later after the fact.. i.e. timming sometimes is key, had to get her between boyfriends :) (banged her on second date... wasnt suave enough to do it on first)
 
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