Being_the_Don
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How can you tell if a woman is shy or just not interested?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Shy versus Not Interested
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
the way to tell this is to look at her actions.Being_the_Don said:
example, in convo, a shy girl might not talk much, but u still connect alittle and she puts in some work.
an uninterested girl wouldnt even give u the chance to talk to her.
make a move on a shy girl, and she wont likely resist if she likes you, and if she does, she'll do it playfully, makin u resist
an uninterested girl will make a painfully clear that she doesnt want u touching her.
u have to read her actions to determine if she is really interested or not. if she makes conscious efforts to avoid u, than she is not interested. if she atleast give u the time of day, then there is atleast some interest there.
this are not absolutes, but they are general ideas that apply to most
Being_the_Don
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I know, it is hard to tell sometimes. We use eye contact as the first way (at least I do and I'm sure most of you guys do, too) to show a woman that we're interested. But women don't always make eye contact. Depending on her persoanlity or even social upbringing she may avoid eye contact altogether. So then you have to look for other things like the hair toss. That usually works for me. If a woman gives the hair toss when she walks by me I'll say hi. If she's interested she'll say hi back. But even that some women are too shy to really talk. So what are some ways you can tell if she's shy or not? Or another way to put it: if she's shy how to build her up in those first few minutes you know?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TruthHurts
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here it is...........
YOU SHOULD HAVE ALREADY ASKED and saved yourself the energy..
try this
"I seen you looking at me and smilling, is it because we have something going on between us or is it just wishfull thinking" doesnt matter what she says (unless obvious rejection, most of the time, even if they want to reject you, they wont know how to, so you still proceed "How about dinner or a drink, let me get your number and I will call you" if she still dont know how to reject you she will give it to you, and when you call you want be successfull at setting up a date...
by the way, one time.. i finally landed a date with a 10+ model like 5 or 6 months later after the fact.. i.e. timming sometimes is key, had to get her between boyfriends
(banged her on second date... wasnt suave enough to do it on first)
if she asked guy before, it means she would do it to you if she also like you enough, in this case she doesnt, or she thinks your man enough to do it yourself.. either way... youve wasted too much time...Mjazz said:
YOU SHOULD HAVE ALREADY ASKED and saved yourself the energy..
try this
"I seen you looking at me and smilling, is it because we have something going on between us or is it just wishfull thinking" doesnt matter what she says (unless obvious rejection, most of the time, even if they want to reject you, they wont know how to, so you still proceed "How about dinner or a drink, let me get your number and I will call you" if she still dont know how to reject you she will give it to you, and when you call you want be successfull at setting up a date...
by the way, one time.. i finally landed a date with a 10+ model like 5 or 6 months later after the fact.. i.e. timming sometimes is key, had to get her between boyfriends
(banged her on second date... wasnt suave enough to do it on first)