"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Shy on dates, any tips?

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Hi guys.

I have this problem for some time. I really can get the things going via texts, but when I get on a date I just don't feel that confident. Even the girls say to me that I am a little bit shy.

Also, I haven't been on much dates in my life because I was in a LTR so I can say that I just started going to dates actively.

Any tips?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being shy is a major vagina dryer. You probably have anxiety or confidence issues. You need to address those either through a therapist or by self improvement. What’s your workout routine like? Are you lifting weights? Improving your body will naturally boost confidence.
 

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Being shy is a major vagina dryer. You probably have anxiety or confidence issues. You need to address those either through a therapist or by self improvement. What’s your workout routine like? Are you lifting weights? Improving your body will naturally boost confidence.
Yep, I know that.
Yes, I am going to the gym regulary and it did boost my confidence but I feel like I just must go through this phase and keep going out on dates to overcome shyness.
 

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Being shy is a major vagina dryer. You probably have anxiety or confidence issues. You need to address those either through a therapist or by self improvement. What’s your workout routine like? Are you lifting weights? Improving your body will naturally boost confidence.
In addition to having a gym routine, you should also eat clean (no soy byproducts or processed foods) and no porn/mbate. If you have concerns that you have an anxiety disorder, see a therapist. No soy/processed foods, no porn, and no mbate should up the aggressiveness a little bit.
 

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Alcohol.

Srs, people are so quick to judge it as a crutch, but humans having been using alcohol to talk with the opposite sex for many thousands of years.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I find that if I schedule what I want to do and just bring them along, it’s way easier. That way I’m in my element and it’s just a bonus they’re there.
Like I’ll see you at 6 we can do mini golf and ice cream after.
Or
Let’s get together at this watering hole at 6. They’ll talk the entire time. You’re enjoying your favorite beverages and scenery. If they’re actually interesting that’s a bonus.
 

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In addition to having a gym routine, you should also eat clean (no soy byproducts or processed foods) and no porn/mbate. If you have concerns that you have an anxiety disorder, see a therapist. No soy/processed foods, no porn, and no mbate should up the aggressiveness a little bit.
NoFap day 20.

I guess I am gonna just continue with nofap, gym, eat clean and going out on more dates and the shyness should dissapear soon.
 

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The only way out is through.

Keep at it (obviously in conjunction with the advice people already gave you) and will get much better!
 
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