"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Shy on dates, any tips?

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Hi guys.

I have this problem for some time. I really can get the things going via texts, but when I get on a date I just don't feel that confident. Even the girls say to me that I am a little bit shy.

Also, I haven't been on much dates in my life because I was in a LTR so I can say that I just started going to dates actively.

Any tips?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Being shy is a major vagina dryer. You probably have anxiety or confidence issues. You need to address those either through a therapist or by self improvement. What’s your workout routine like? Are you lifting weights? Improving your body will naturally boost confidence.
 

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Being shy is a major vagina dryer. You probably have anxiety or confidence issues. You need to address those either through a therapist or by self improvement. What’s your workout routine like? Are you lifting weights? Improving your body will naturally boost confidence.
Yep, I know that.
Yes, I am going to the gym regulary and it did boost my confidence but I feel like I just must go through this phase and keep going out on dates to overcome shyness.
 

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Being shy is a major vagina dryer. You probably have anxiety or confidence issues. You need to address those either through a therapist or by self improvement. What’s your workout routine like? Are you lifting weights? Improving your body will naturally boost confidence.
In addition to having a gym routine, you should also eat clean (no soy byproducts or processed foods) and no porn/mbate. If you have concerns that you have an anxiety disorder, see a therapist. No soy/processed foods, no porn, and no mbate should up the aggressiveness a little bit.
 

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Alcohol.

Srs, people are so quick to judge it as a crutch, but humans having been using alcohol to talk with the opposite sex for many thousands of years.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I find that if I schedule what I want to do and just bring them along, it’s way easier. That way I’m in my element and it’s just a bonus they’re there.
Like I’ll see you at 6 we can do mini golf and ice cream after.
Or
Let’s get together at this watering hole at 6. They’ll talk the entire time. You’re enjoying your favorite beverages and scenery. If they’re actually interesting that’s a bonus.
 

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In addition to having a gym routine, you should also eat clean (no soy byproducts or processed foods) and no porn/mbate. If you have concerns that you have an anxiety disorder, see a therapist. No soy/processed foods, no porn, and no mbate should up the aggressiveness a little bit.
NoFap day 20.

I guess I am gonna just continue with nofap, gym, eat clean and going out on more dates and the shyness should dissapear soon.
 

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The only way out is through.

Keep at it (obviously in conjunction with the advice people already gave you) and will get much better!
 
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