Shut the f*ck up..

[cola]

Talk less.
Masculine energy is like water, calm yet immensely powerful.
This is the essence of manliness.

To ramble on like a bafoon is the opposite of what we want to accomplish here.
Let her talk, ask your questions with purpose, leading somewhere.

You: What do you do for fun?

Her: I like to travel

You: Where have you been?

Her: France, Germany, Tukery

You: How was Germany?

Her: <talks the next 15 minutes about Germany>

Instead of talking so much focus your effort into strong eye contact.
Sexual tension requires no words ..

Even a fool is thought a wise man until he speaks.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I agree, but I'll add with the caveat this only applies when you're on a date or have isolated a girl away from everyone else.

You do this in a group setting, and she'll forget you're even there. She's going home with the guy who is the life of the party and who's got her attention, not the guy who shuts himself off and doesn't say more than one or two words at a time. That guy is boring.

And I say this as someone who has been both a victim and a beneficiary of this truth.

 

[Red Legg]

Just don't babble and drone on like an idiot...I have talked many a woman out of her panties.

 

[cola]

I agree, but I'll add with the caveat this only applies when you're on a date or have isolated a girl away from everyone else.

You do this in a group setting, and she'll forget you're even there. She's going home with the guy who is the life of the party and who's got her attention, not the guy who shuts himself off and doesn't say more than one or two words at a time. That guy is boring.

And I say this as someone who has been both a victim and a beneficiary of this truth.

I disagree.
If you have confident body language and carry yourself with class, you will be more intriguing than the loud guy everytime..

The girl who wants loud, obnoxious guy is shallow.

 

[Billtx49]

Talk less.
Masculine energy is like water, calm yet immensely powerful.
This is the essence of manliness.

To ramble on like a bafoon is the opposite of what we want to accomplish here.
Let her talk, ask your questions with purpose, leading somewhere.

You: What do you do for fun?

Her: I like to travel

You: Where have you been?

Her: France, Germany, Tukery

You: How was Germany?

Her: <talks the next 15 minutes about Germany>

Instead of talking so much focus your effort into strong eye contact.
Sexual tension requires no words ..

Even a fool is thought a wise man until he speaks.

Be sociable without exploding at your mouth… It’s all about a balanced approach. Statements, questions, answers.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Masculinity varies per individual. You cannot force what works for you onto others. I can ask a chick “oh how was Germany?” And she’ll say only a few sentences instead of talking for 15 minutes.

 

[TheGambino]

Talk less.
Masculine energy is like water, calm yet immensely powerful.
This is the essence of manliness.

To ramble on like a bafoon is the opposite of what we want to accomplish here.
Let her talk, ask your questions with purpose, leading somewhere.

You: What do you do for fun?

Her: I like to travel

You: Where have you been?

Her: France, Germany, Tukery

You: How was Germany?

Her: <talks the next 15 minutes about Germany>

Instead of talking so much focus your effort into strong eye contact.
Sexual tension requires no words ..

Even a fool is thought a wise man until he speaks.

That's What I do lol

 

[resilient]

Masculinity varies per individual. You cannot force what works for you onto others. I can ask a chick “oh how was Germany?” And she’ll say only a few sentences instead of talking for 15 minutes.

Yes... the trick is finding a topic that she's 100% into that taps all her right emotional notes. If she's lukewarm about it, or it was a fun one and done experience, got the t-shirt; it's going to be a few sentences convo.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I disagree.
If you have confident body language and carry yourself with class, you will be more intriguing than the loud guy everytime..

The girl who wants loud, obnoxious guy is shallow.

True, I guess I'm assuming the guy who is the life of the party isn't always loud and obnoxious. It's not necessarily the case all the time.

Carrying yourself with class and having good body language doesn't mean you can't be extroverted and be sociable. You just gotta know when to shut up and let others talk, which goes along with your point.

 

[ubercat]

Ok so addressing the how to keep the conversation going question.

Chicks like options in conversation just like they want options on everything else. Normally while they are blathering on I'll look for a couple of hooks. A hook being anything that she emphasized. So maybe she mentions that she went to Germany with her friend or her sister. Now if Germany got big play you can go with that..so Germany tell me...Or her eyes lit up when she mentioned her friend or sister... She sounds really cool are you guys tight?

So based on her reactions dangle a couple of topics and see which one she bites on. Keep following the same approach keep it on her and how she feels and she'll think you're the best conversationalist in the world

 

[Bible_Belt]

The advice in the OP's post was in How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, 1937. It is old enough that the copyright has expired, and it can be read for free, here's one link to it: http://images.kw.com/docs/2/1/2/212345/1285134779158_htwfaip.pdf

 

[lizardking82]

Be calm, but if you feel like talking, talk the **** out. There is no "masculine energy is still, so you don't talk a lot". Maybe I am a big talker, maybe I get angry sometimes, maybe I yell at times. You're human, not some robot machine that controls your gadgets in order to have the highest chances to attract a chick. No matter what you do, some chicks will like and **** you, some others won't. You'll understand it naturally. The biggest rule is "all rules are breakable and bendable".

 

[cola]

Be calm, but if you feel like talking, talk the **** out. There is no "masculine energy is still, so you don't talk a lot". Maybe I am a big talker, maybe I get angry sometimes, maybe I yell at times. You're human, not some robot machine that controls your gadgets in order to have the highest chances to attract a chick. No matter what you do, some chicks will like and **** you, some others won't. You'll understand it naturally. The biggest rule is "all rules are breakable and bendable".

Just my opinion men should be like a rock ..
Stoic.
Highs never to high, lows never too low.
You can be angry but don't have to show it.

Happy and fun, yet not a jester.
Serious but not so serious you are unapproachable.

Just how I see a man should be.
To each baby, their own titty.

 

[sosousage]

Just my opinion men should be like a rock ..
Stoic.
Highs never to high, lows never too low.
You can be angry but don't have to show it.

Happy and fun, yet not a jester.
Serious but not so serious you are unapproachable.

Just how I see a man should be.
To each baby, their own titty.

in other words mediocre?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I disagree.
If you have confident body language and carry yourself with class, you will be more intriguing than the loud guy everytime..

The girl who wants loud, obnoxious guy is shallow.

But there are some who like that

 

[Arioch7]

Be sociable without exploding at your mouth… It’s all about a balanced approach. Statements, questions, answers.

M

 

[btownbuck2012]

Not with dimes. You've got to know how to talk to disarm and eventually disrobe those broads, at least in my experience.

"Give me 10 minutes to talk away my ugly face and I'll bed the Queen of France" - Voltaire (I think).

 

[guru1000]

All this is a part of "game," that is training wheels to get you to the destination. But what is the destination?

When you reach the epitome of game, you no longer recognize game. Subscribing to rules is devaluing, as you elevate another's rules above your own, violating your will, thus shape-shifting (unnecessarily) and pandering to win favor with a woman. Why do I use the word "pandering"? Pandering is catering to win another from a place of weakness, and this is exactly what you are doing when you defile your own will and follow somebody else's to win a woman, whom should be no object to be won.

What many DJs should be striving for is authenticity. That is acting and behaving in a way that is 100% governed by their will. Should that be sociable, then so be it. Should that be non-sociable, then so be it as well. This is real game, unfamiliar territory for betas as it requires confidence and unequivocal belief in oneself followed by bold, shameless, unapologetic action directed by one's own volition. The "game" tossed around here is anti-game; simply an abrogation of will.

Experientially, I have had dates where I did all the talking and the girls' IL went higher. I also had dates where I didn't talk at all, and the girl maintained high IL.

Act as you wish.

 

[BeExcellent]

All this is a part of "game," that is training wheels to get you to the destination. But what is the destination?

When you reach the epitome of game, you no longer recognize game. Subscribing to rules is devaluing, as you elevate another's rules above your own, violating your will, thus shape-shifting (unnecessarily) and pandering to win favor with a woman. Why do I use the word "pandering"? Pandering is catering to win another from a place of weakness, and this is exactly what you are doing when you defile your own will and follow somebody else's to win a woman, whom should be no object to be won.

What many DJs should be striving for is authenticity. That is acting and behaving in a way that is 100% governed by their will. Should that be sociable, then so be it. Should that be non-sociable, then so be it as well. This is real game, unfamiliar territory for betas as it requires confidence and unequivocal belief in oneself followed by bold, shameless, unapologetic action directed by one's own volition. The "game" tossed around here is anti-game; simply an abrogation of will.

Experientially, I have had dates where I did all the talking and the girls' IL went higher. I also had dates where I didn't talk at all, and the girl maintained high IL.

Act as you wish.

This^^^.

Master your own destiny gentlemen.

 

[ubercat]

But can the master of abstract painting reach that level without the years of still Life drawing and painting landscapes.