Shut the f*ck up!

[BadsnakeUK]

This is one of the biggest things to master when dealing with women. We read a ton of stuff about how to DHV, bust on her, disqualify her blah blah blah, and quite often we just talk ourselves into oblivion.

As an AFC, we do this either out of nervousness or the need to impress, or to give ourselves completely to our goddess so she can see all the wonderful things about us. As a wannabe DJ we do it to impress her with our DJness, or because we want to try out all of these cool techniques that are guaranteed to get us laid in 7 hours or whatever.

Make your words count. You only need to convey enough. Any more than that is too much. Any more than enough and your value goes into freefall. You look like you are showing off, desperate to keep her or explaning yourself, all of which are low value, low status behaviours.

Remember that women love mystery. However much you try to build yourself up in her eyes, it will never match up to her fantasies of the mysterious stranger. After all, however good you are, you still live life as an ardinary person every day. Leave it to her imagination and you are her knight in shining armour. Let her have the fantasy and fall in love with it. Let her paint her own pictures. The devil is in the detail!

Of course, in the first few minutes of meeting a woman you will neeed to lead the convo and push things on, but when you have her hooked, there's no need to talk her into the ground. Use broad brush strokes and let her fill in the rest.

 

[Key Mister]

where do you draw the line though?

because obviously you cant say nothg or very little in front of a girl...

 

[BadsnakeUK]

As I said, at first you'll need to take the lead, but after this, when she starts showing some interest, asking about you, there's no need to spill your guts. That's what AFCs do all the time - just splurge all over her with their whole life story. Someone wrote on here a while back that she wants to unpeel you a layer at a time, like an onion, not just unravel you all at once. Give things to her slowly, a bit at a time. If she wants to know more, she'll ask. They're very nosey creatures and it will drive her mad trying to find out what you're about.

 

[Ripper]

This is right on the money. Nice Badsnake.

 

[martinM.]

Great post.

On a semi-related note, there's a lot of talk on here about what to add to your "game" on this board, but not a lot of talk about things you may need to drop. Sometimes it's not a matter of adding, but rather subtracting.

Cutting the fat so to speak.

You may be surprised.

 

[Huffman]

Good call... I've already experienced the power of mystery a couple of times, I shall try to amplify it even more.

Also about cutting the fat... this man speaks the truth!

 

[BadsnakeUK]

Bump

 

[Lanceroni3]

Be careful not to go into "passive mode" by cutting down how much you talk. In fact, you still have to have more energy than she does. The moment she becomes bored, you're **** out of luck.

If you are on a planned date, you still gotta lead the conversation. Just don't reveal much about yourself, and keep the comments ****y/funny, and your golden.

Same goes with picking up girls, or talking on the phone. Make your words count, let your actions do the rest.

If you're stuck in a situation where you are forced to have conversation (ie. like driving in a car, moving from one place to another) dont leave any silence between you guys, again the key is to not talk about yourself. Observe your surroundings, try rapping with the song on the radio, tell her she has a spider in her hair, something! Keep it light and fun, always. Save the serious stuff for your guy friends, or your sister. Goodluck dudes!

 

[drtk]

Once again you're 100% right Snake. Keep delivering please.

 

[RokyRoc]

Shut up and Listen. Make sure you give her just enough to keep on going, like putting gas in a car. Too much and you'll be f***** broke. Nice post BSnake