"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Showing your intentions...how?

LittleBigOne

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Often i read on this forum that man have to show their intentions when they like a girl. I am not talking here about the cold approaches in a club but more with girls you meet during daily situations like work or sport and probarly know for a little while. My question is, how do you show these intentions without looking needy / desperate. Will showing your intentions increase attraction with a certain girl when you show these intentions?

Looking forward to see your responses about this one.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fly By Night

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Okay, while those answers above are correct, those are the clearly obvious forms of showing your intentions. If you walk up to random women and ask to go out for drinks, your success rate will be much lower than 10%, even though you are being very straight forward.

Using more subtle things during a convo will show your interest. Things like kino, locking eyes with her, and closing proximity with her will convey that you are interested in her for more than platonic conversation. Asking to go out together should be the conclusion after you see she realizes and reciprocates those signs back to you, not blindly asking for her number without knowing if she actually likes you. Doing this properly will get you numbers that will not flake. :)
 

VladPatton

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Build a little bit of comfort first if you know her in your social circle. And I don't mean for 6 months with text messages! Build it in person only, but do exchange numbers. Keep texting at a minimum. Use it mostly to set up dates.

You then proceed to ask her for drinks in a very matter-of-fact kind of way. Just like you would your long time friend. If she refuses or comes up with a bųllṣhit excuse just shake it off. Proceed to just be playful. Wait some time, then ask again. Two bųllṣhit excuses = not interested. You then let her go and move on. Only way to do it, there is no magic bullet or shortcuts.

Good luck, and always play it cool.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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