"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Showing your intentions...how?

LittleBigOne

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Often i read on this forum that man have to show their intentions when they like a girl. I am not talking here about the cold approaches in a club but more with girls you meet during daily situations like work or sport and probarly know for a little while. My question is, how do you show these intentions without looking needy / desperate. Will showing your intentions increase attraction with a certain girl when you show these intentions?

Looking forward to see your responses about this one.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fly By Night

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Okay, while those answers above are correct, those are the clearly obvious forms of showing your intentions. If you walk up to random women and ask to go out for drinks, your success rate will be much lower than 10%, even though you are being very straight forward.

Using more subtle things during a convo will show your interest. Things like kino, locking eyes with her, and closing proximity with her will convey that you are interested in her for more than platonic conversation. Asking to go out together should be the conclusion after you see she realizes and reciprocates those signs back to you, not blindly asking for her number without knowing if she actually likes you. Doing this properly will get you numbers that will not flake. :)
 

VladPatton

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Build a little bit of comfort first if you know her in your social circle. And I don't mean for 6 months with text messages! Build it in person only, but do exchange numbers. Keep texting at a minimum. Use it mostly to set up dates.

You then proceed to ask her for drinks in a very matter-of-fact kind of way. Just like you would your long time friend. If she refuses or comes up with a bųllṣhit excuse just shake it off. Proceed to just be playful. Wait some time, then ask again. Two bųllṣhit excuses = not interested. You then let her go and move on. Only way to do it, there is no magic bullet or shortcuts.

Good luck, and always play it cool.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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