"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Showing Interest

Gammergq

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Okay my number one principle with girls after trail and error is not to show too much interest especially in start but how do you show the right amount of interest and keep a aloofness and control of the situation?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nexus Polaris

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I don't know how much is just enough, but don't do what I do. I've been overcompensating and running them off by being too aloof.

There's a line somewhere in the middle that's personable. It's between too interested and not interested enough. I still haven't found it.
 

Interceptor

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Show interest when she shows you something interesting.
 

ready123

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yea, I agree with Interceptor. showing interest is fine if it's genuine. if she says something you think is fvckin cool - like she's a fan of the same NBA team as you, or you like the same kind of movies, you don't lose value for being interested

showing interest for no reason is what you should avoid - that just telegraphs desparation

if you're actign aloof, you're purposely making yourself boring, not cooler. don't do that sh!t
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lord Shinra

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I usually take her IOI's and match them. I keep matching and then when she isn't expecting it I'll up the ante a good amount.

It will really make it look like you have a pair and if she dont like you, you know ahead of time to move on.
 

mongolboy

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Show interest if she shows you interesting or the other way around also 2, if there is no interest oh well NEXT!!! there are 3 billion girls in the world and 28,526 days 2 live so GO GET IT!
 
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