"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Showing Interest

Gammergq

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 31, 2007
Messages
46
Reaction score
0
Okay my number one principle with girls after trail and error is not to show too much interest especially in start but how do you show the right amount of interest and keep a aloofness and control of the situation?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Nexus Polaris

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 10, 2007
Messages
452
Reaction score
13
I don't know how much is just enough, but don't do what I do. I've been overcompensating and running them off by being too aloof.

There's a line somewhere in the middle that's personable. It's between too interested and not interested enough. I still haven't found it.
 

Interceptor

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 25, 2007
Messages
2,609
Reaction score
135
Location
Florida
Show interest when she shows you something interesting.
 

ready123

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 16, 2007
Messages
1,259
Reaction score
35
Location
Los Angeles
yea, I agree with Interceptor. showing interest is fine if it's genuine. if she says something you think is fvckin cool - like she's a fan of the same NBA team as you, or you like the same kind of movies, you don't lose value for being interested

showing interest for no reason is what you should avoid - that just telegraphs desparation

if you're actign aloof, you're purposely making yourself boring, not cooler. don't do that sh!t
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Lord Shinra

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 4, 2007
Messages
341
Reaction score
2
Location
NJ
I usually take her IOI's and match them. I keep matching and then when she isn't expecting it I'll up the ante a good amount.

It will really make it look like you have a pair and if she dont like you, you know ahead of time to move on.
 

mongolboy

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 19, 2007
Messages
126
Reaction score
0
Location
Mongolia
Show interest if she shows you interesting or the other way around also 2, if there is no interest oh well NEXT!!! there are 3 billion girls in the world and 28,526 days 2 live so GO GET IT!
 
Top