My girlfriend of about nine months is now starting to ask me questions about how many girls I've kissed. I figure this will lead to her asking how many girls I've slept with and so on. I've been teasing her with answers like "between 5 and 15" and it drives her crazy. I'm worried that she'll continue to pester me about it until I answer her. Should I ever tell her how many girls I've been with?
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should you tell a girl about your past?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tyrone Biggums
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Never Tell
NEVER tell a woman how many girls you've slept with. She'll just end up using it against you later on.
NEVER tell a woman how many girls you've slept with. She'll just end up using it against you later on.
"Should I ever tell her how many girls I've been with?"
Well... it does, like you probably understand, depend on how many girls that you acctually have been with. And even if it's 5 or 50 girls you've been with it depends on the girl.
If you tell a girl that you've slept with 50 women and she believes in it she'll take for granted that you're a god in bed. But... she will also feel like she, in the future, will be refered to as the 51st girl taken to bed. In other words; She'll feel like you're using her. And that, you don't want.
If you've been with less then, let's say 2-3 girls, it's probably not a good idea to tell her that, as long as they didn't were girls that you fvcked many times. (like in a LTR.)
Now to your case:
You've dated her for 9 months, so you've probably had a lot of sex, and she'll definitely not believe that you're using her.
Damn, you really dated her for 9 months without having the discussion with her?
How many girls HAVE YOU really been with before? How many girls have you kissed? If you've been dating her for 9 months now, you can probably tell her the truth - Even if it's ZERO or HUNDREDS. She trusts you, loves you, and i don't think she cares.
Would you care if she had kissed ZERO or A HUNDRED guys before she met you? I wouldn't.
Get the idea?
Well... it does, like you probably understand, depend on how many girls that you acctually have been with. And even if it's 5 or 50 girls you've been with it depends on the girl.
If you tell a girl that you've slept with 50 women and she believes in it she'll take for granted that you're a god in bed. But... she will also feel like she, in the future, will be refered to as the 51st girl taken to bed. In other words; She'll feel like you're using her. And that, you don't want.
If you've been with less then, let's say 2-3 girls, it's probably not a good idea to tell her that, as long as they didn't were girls that you fvcked many times. (like in a LTR.)
Now to your case:
You've dated her for 9 months, so you've probably had a lot of sex, and she'll definitely not believe that you're using her.
Damn, you really dated her for 9 months without having the discussion with her?
How many girls HAVE YOU really been with before? How many girls have you kissed? If you've been dating her for 9 months now, you can probably tell her the truth - Even if it's ZERO or HUNDREDS. She trusts you, loves you, and i don't think she cares.
Would you care if she had kissed ZERO or A HUNDRED guys before she met you? I wouldn't.
Get the idea?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Just laugh and say "You're joking right? You aren't one of those insecure girls are you, you seem more mature than that..."
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
lol
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
NEVER. It will end your relationship, trust me. You will never hear the end of it. Girls who go digging like this do what's called 'sandbagging'. They save that information up to use against you in the next fight you get into. Then it all comes out on top of you. This is also a red flag BTW. It's an indicator as to this woman's sense of security.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
I usually say something like "I lost track after 15...".
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
yeah say "it dosnt matter that all behind me..........and besides i'v lost count.. they were not important but its important that your here with me now"