My girlfriend of about nine months is now starting to ask me questions about how many girls I've kissed. I figure this will lead to her asking how many girls I've slept with and so on. I've been teasing her with answers like "between 5 and 15" and it drives her crazy. I'm worried that she'll continue to pester me about it until I answer her. Should I ever tell her how many girls I've been with?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
should you tell a girl about your past?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Tyrone Biggums
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Never Tell
NEVER tell a woman how many girls you've slept with. She'll just end up using it against you later on.
NEVER tell a woman how many girls you've slept with. She'll just end up using it against you later on.
"Should I ever tell her how many girls I've been with?"
Well... it does, like you probably understand, depend on how many girls that you acctually have been with. And even if it's 5 or 50 girls you've been with it depends on the girl.
If you tell a girl that you've slept with 50 women and she believes in it she'll take for granted that you're a god in bed. But... she will also feel like she, in the future, will be refered to as the 51st girl taken to bed. In other words; She'll feel like you're using her. And that, you don't want.
If you've been with less then, let's say 2-3 girls, it's probably not a good idea to tell her that, as long as they didn't were girls that you fvcked many times. (like in a LTR.)
Now to your case:
You've dated her for 9 months, so you've probably had a lot of sex, and she'll definitely not believe that you're using her.
Damn, you really dated her for 9 months without having the discussion with her?
How many girls HAVE YOU really been with before? How many girls have you kissed? If you've been dating her for 9 months now, you can probably tell her the truth - Even if it's ZERO or HUNDREDS. She trusts you, loves you, and i don't think she cares.
Would you care if she had kissed ZERO or A HUNDRED guys before she met you? I wouldn't.
Get the idea?
Well... it does, like you probably understand, depend on how many girls that you acctually have been with. And even if it's 5 or 50 girls you've been with it depends on the girl.
If you tell a girl that you've slept with 50 women and she believes in it she'll take for granted that you're a god in bed. But... she will also feel like she, in the future, will be refered to as the 51st girl taken to bed. In other words; She'll feel like you're using her. And that, you don't want.
If you've been with less then, let's say 2-3 girls, it's probably not a good idea to tell her that, as long as they didn't were girls that you fvcked many times. (like in a LTR.)
Now to your case:
You've dated her for 9 months, so you've probably had a lot of sex, and she'll definitely not believe that you're using her.
Damn, you really dated her for 9 months without having the discussion with her?
How many girls HAVE YOU really been with before? How many girls have you kissed? If you've been dating her for 9 months now, you can probably tell her the truth - Even if it's ZERO or HUNDREDS. She trusts you, loves you, and i don't think she cares.
Would you care if she had kissed ZERO or A HUNDRED guys before she met you? I wouldn't.
Get the idea?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Just laugh and say "You're joking right? You aren't one of those insecure girls are you, you seem more mature than that..."
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
lol
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
NEVER. It will end your relationship, trust me. You will never hear the end of it. Girls who go digging like this do what's called 'sandbagging'. They save that information up to use against you in the next fight you get into. Then it all comes out on top of you. This is also a red flag BTW. It's an indicator as to this woman's sense of security.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
I usually say something like "I lost track after 15...".
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
yeah say "it dosnt matter that all behind me..........and besides i'v lost count.. they were not important but its important that your here with me now"