"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should you reply to every text message?

MKS82

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If a girl texts you something like good nite should you reply back? I need to be more of a challenge to this girl so i debate whether or not i should reply always. basically we dated for a little but still hang out a couple of times a week. i know she doesnt see me as a challenge anymore. i just feel its a little too much d1ch headish not replying to her going out of her way to say good night to me. although it could be a mass text. hahah.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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My ex girlfriend would get upset if I didn't reply to her texts. I would here and there. Sometimes, I couldnt reply to her right away. She would think I was ignoring her, not wanting to talk to her, or mad at her and whatever else. Just reply if you want it doesn't really matter. Aslong as she is the 1 texting you all the time.
 

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MKS82 said:
If a girl texts you something like good nite should you reply back? I need to be more of a challenge to this girl so i debate whether or not i should reply always. basically we dated for a little but still hang out a couple of times a week. i know she doesnt see me as a challenge anymore. i just feel its a little too much d1ch headish not replying to her going out of her way to say good night to me. although it could be a mass text. hahah.
do not respond back to unimportant messages. idle minded texts do not get a reply from me
 

Crazy Asian

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what i do is, if what she says interests me, or is asking a question, i reply.
if it's just a statement that i don't care about, i don't.
simple
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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War Against Betaism

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I usually don't hold a text message convo for more than 10 messages. Not because I'm keeping count, just that I think it's too long. And if she texts me saying stuff like "entertain me" or stuff like that, I don't even respond to it.
 

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As everyone else says, I wouldn't reply to that. There is no real reason to.
 
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