So got this girl friend that's slowly turning into a fvck buddy (making out, obvious interest on her part, but no sex yet). She's not down to date since she's leaving for a different city in a couple months but seems to be down to fvck (or is at least open to the idea). While I don't have any questions about how to get this girl in bed (I think I'm good on that part) I was wondering if I should lay down some rules with her. Like I'm still gonna game other girls because I'm looking for an actual girlfriend and I don't want to have to hide that (too much work). Basically I don't want her to start acting clingy and ****, just want to have a fun time with her. What are your opinions on this?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Should you lay down rules with a fvck buddy?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
I bet she's got the same question floating in her head.
Don't even sweat about her getting emotional, she most likely won't as long as you don't reciprocate.
However, draw the line and lay the ground rules if you want. Can't hurt to do so.
Don't even sweat about her getting emotional, she most likely won't as long as you don't reciprocate.
However, draw the line and lay the ground rules if you want. Can't hurt to do so.
You need to lay down the rules in the start. My rules would be:
1. We are both still able to see other people.
2. You cant pressurise the other person for it, only do it when its mutually convienient
3. What happens between us stays between us
4. Dont even think about trying to contact me at work
5. And when you want out, be direct about it.
1. We are both still able to see other people.
2. You cant pressurise the other person for it, only do it when its mutually convienient
3. What happens between us stays between us
4. Dont even think about trying to contact me at work
5. And when you want out, be direct about it.
Why in the hell would you bring up rules with her... And guess what... Even if rules are made they will be broken.
If you bring up the rules thing it shows that you care more than she does.
So go with NO RULES and Bang the Brakes off the B1tch.
If you bring up the rules thing it shows that you care more than she does.
So go with NO RULES and Bang the Brakes off the B1tch.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This.horaholic said:Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
If you start laying down the rules then she might start to think and questioning why is she slvtting herself just for you instead of making it official and being your girlfriend. If she is already willing that you are going to fvck her then why are you going out of you way to try and make it difficult?!
Fvckbuddies is what it is. Its basically a chick that you know that comes over to your place and fvcks you without any questions asked beforehand or having expectations afterwards.
Worst case scenario is somebody gets attached, right? If that's going to happen, it'll happen whether or not you talk about rules first. By all means, there are things you should avoid like leading her on in a girlfriend/boyfriend way, but once you're following your personal rules there's not much you can do about the attraction. I don't see how laying down some rules helps unless you significantly care about preserving a platonic friendship later on down the road.
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qfthoraholic said:Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
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No need for rules in this case.
The only thing she needs to know is that your only friends with benefits and nothing more. So, what you two do outside of each other is your own business.
The only thing she needs to know is that your only friends with benefits and nothing more. So, what you two do outside of each other is your own business.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.