So got this girl friend that's slowly turning into a fvck buddy (making out, obvious interest on her part, but no sex yet). She's not down to date since she's leaving for a different city in a couple months but seems to be down to fvck (or is at least open to the idea). While I don't have any questions about how to get this girl in bed (I think I'm good on that part) I was wondering if I should lay down some rules with her. Like I'm still gonna game other girls because I'm looking for an actual girlfriend and I don't want to have to hide that (too much work). Basically I don't want her to start acting clingy and ****, just want to have a fun time with her. What are your opinions on this?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Should you lay down rules with a fvck buddy?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
I bet she's got the same question floating in her head.
Don't even sweat about her getting emotional, she most likely won't as long as you don't reciprocate.
However, draw the line and lay the ground rules if you want. Can't hurt to do so.
Don't even sweat about her getting emotional, she most likely won't as long as you don't reciprocate.
However, draw the line and lay the ground rules if you want. Can't hurt to do so.
You need to lay down the rules in the start. My rules would be:
1. We are both still able to see other people.
2. You cant pressurise the other person for it, only do it when its mutually convienient
3. What happens between us stays between us
4. Dont even think about trying to contact me at work
5. And when you want out, be direct about it.
1. We are both still able to see other people.
2. You cant pressurise the other person for it, only do it when its mutually convienient
3. What happens between us stays between us
4. Dont even think about trying to contact me at work
5. And when you want out, be direct about it.
Why in the hell would you bring up rules with her... And guess what... Even if rules are made they will be broken.
If you bring up the rules thing it shows that you care more than she does.
So go with NO RULES and Bang the Brakes off the B1tch.
If you bring up the rules thing it shows that you care more than she does.
So go with NO RULES and Bang the Brakes off the B1tch.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This.horaholic said:Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
If you start laying down the rules then she might start to think and questioning why is she slvtting herself just for you instead of making it official and being your girlfriend. If she is already willing that you are going to fvck her then why are you going out of you way to try and make it difficult?!
Fvckbuddies is what it is. Its basically a chick that you know that comes over to your place and fvcks you without any questions asked beforehand or having expectations afterwards.
Worst case scenario is somebody gets attached, right? If that's going to happen, it'll happen whether or not you talk about rules first. By all means, there are things you should avoid like leading her on in a girlfriend/boyfriend way, but once you're following your personal rules there's not much you can do about the attraction. I don't see how laying down some rules helps unless you significantly care about preserving a platonic friendship later on down the road.
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qfthoraholic said:Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
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No need for rules in this case.
The only thing she needs to know is that your only friends with benefits and nothing more. So, what you two do outside of each other is your own business.
The only thing she needs to know is that your only friends with benefits and nothing more. So, what you two do outside of each other is your own business.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.