So got this girl friend that's slowly turning into a fvck buddy (making out, obvious interest on her part, but no sex yet). She's not down to date since she's leaving for a different city in a couple months but seems to be down to fvck (or is at least open to the idea). While I don't have any questions about how to get this girl in bed (I think I'm good on that part) I was wondering if I should lay down some rules with her. Like I'm still gonna game other girls because I'm looking for an actual girlfriend and I don't want to have to hide that (too much work). Basically I don't want her to start acting clingy and ****, just want to have a fun time with her. What are your opinions on this?
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Should you lay down rules with a fvck buddy?
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
I bet she's got the same question floating in her head.
Don't even sweat about her getting emotional, she most likely won't as long as you don't reciprocate.
However, draw the line and lay the ground rules if you want. Can't hurt to do so.
Don't even sweat about her getting emotional, she most likely won't as long as you don't reciprocate.
However, draw the line and lay the ground rules if you want. Can't hurt to do so.
You need to lay down the rules in the start. My rules would be:
1. We are both still able to see other people.
2. You cant pressurise the other person for it, only do it when its mutually convienient
3. What happens between us stays between us
4. Dont even think about trying to contact me at work
5. And when you want out, be direct about it.
1. We are both still able to see other people.
2. You cant pressurise the other person for it, only do it when its mutually convienient
3. What happens between us stays between us
4. Dont even think about trying to contact me at work
5. And when you want out, be direct about it.
Why in the hell would you bring up rules with her... And guess what... Even if rules are made they will be broken.
If you bring up the rules thing it shows that you care more than she does.
So go with NO RULES and Bang the Brakes off the B1tch.
If you bring up the rules thing it shows that you care more than she does.
So go with NO RULES and Bang the Brakes off the B1tch.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
This.horaholic said:Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
If you start laying down the rules then she might start to think and questioning why is she slvtting herself just for you instead of making it official and being your girlfriend. If she is already willing that you are going to fvck her then why are you going out of you way to try and make it difficult?!
Fvckbuddies is what it is. Its basically a chick that you know that comes over to your place and fvcks you without any questions asked beforehand or having expectations afterwards.
Worst case scenario is somebody gets attached, right? If that's going to happen, it'll happen whether or not you talk about rules first. By all means, there are things you should avoid like leading her on in a girlfriend/boyfriend way, but once you're following your personal rules there's not much you can do about the attraction. I don't see how laying down some rules helps unless you significantly care about preserving a platonic friendship later on down the road.
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qfthoraholic said:Dont count your eggs before they hatch. She aint a fvckbuddy until you're actually fvcking her. Also, part of the joy of fvckbuddies, is that there are no rules. Ask this question AFTER you've banged her several times, and ONLY if there is a problem.
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No need for rules in this case.
The only thing she needs to know is that your only friends with benefits and nothing more. So, what you two do outside of each other is your own business.
The only thing she needs to know is that your only friends with benefits and nothing more. So, what you two do outside of each other is your own business.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.