"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Should we feel bad??

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Heading out tonight to meet girl #2....****tails and of course the rest. This isn't amature hour.

Girl 2 is on the phone with me as girl #1 is calling. I told girl #1 I was tired and not willing to drive 30 min. To her place, knowing girl #2 was in the bank.

Problem is I totally like girl one and have to see her tomorrow (my choice).

Now I feel like I'm fvcking her over. I have to pretend I slept well tonight.

You guys deal with this or am I being an idiot??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A lot is said about spinning more than one plate, but sometimes you have to make a choice.
 

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It will pass and after you've done it enough times it won't even bother you or affect you.

Goes easy on the c*cktails tonight, in the past that has messed up my game the next day.
I can't comprehend guys that have more than 2 plates, that's just sounds straight up exhausting to me.
 

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Personally, if the girl is very high quality I would not have any motivation to date concurrently anyway, and err of that side. However, those women are rare obviously.

Realistically they do all have multiple plates so...
I'd like to think that girl #1 doesn't have multiple plates. Actually all indicators point that way.

I just try to keep my options open as we all know any girl can have and probably does have orbiters floating around.

This mindset doesn't help with the guilt though.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

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Heading out tonight to meet girl #2....****tails and of course the rest. This isn't amature hour.

Girl 2 is on the phone with me as girl #1 is calling. I told girl #1 I was tired and not willing to drive 30 min. To her place, knowing girl #2 was in the bank.

Problem is I totally like girl one and have to see her tomorrow (my choice).

Now I feel like I'm fvcking her over. I have to pretend I slept well tonight.

You guys deal with this or am I being an idiot??
Cognitive dissonance ol' friend. A lifetime of indoctrination competing with newfound wisdom. Neither is right nor wrong. There are only diametric perceptions that can be cogently argued.

I wouldn't be overly concerned about the acts themselves; rather focus on the intentions and motivations from which you are operating.
 
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