"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Should we feel bad??

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Heading out tonight to meet girl #2....****tails and of course the rest. This isn't amature hour.

Girl 2 is on the phone with me as girl #1 is calling. I told girl #1 I was tired and not willing to drive 30 min. To her place, knowing girl #2 was in the bank.

Problem is I totally like girl one and have to see her tomorrow (my choice).

Now I feel like I'm fvcking her over. I have to pretend I slept well tonight.

You guys deal with this or am I being an idiot??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A lot is said about spinning more than one plate, but sometimes you have to make a choice.
 

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It will pass and after you've done it enough times it won't even bother you or affect you.

Goes easy on the c*cktails tonight, in the past that has messed up my game the next day.
I can't comprehend guys that have more than 2 plates, that's just sounds straight up exhausting to me.
 

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Personally, if the girl is very high quality I would not have any motivation to date concurrently anyway, and err of that side. However, those women are rare obviously.

Realistically they do all have multiple plates so...
I'd like to think that girl #1 doesn't have multiple plates. Actually all indicators point that way.

I just try to keep my options open as we all know any girl can have and probably does have orbiters floating around.

This mindset doesn't help with the guilt though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Heading out tonight to meet girl #2....****tails and of course the rest. This isn't amature hour.

Girl 2 is on the phone with me as girl #1 is calling. I told girl #1 I was tired and not willing to drive 30 min. To her place, knowing girl #2 was in the bank.

Problem is I totally like girl one and have to see her tomorrow (my choice).

Now I feel like I'm fvcking her over. I have to pretend I slept well tonight.

You guys deal with this or am I being an idiot??
Cognitive dissonance ol' friend. A lifetime of indoctrination competing with newfound wisdom. Neither is right nor wrong. There are only diametric perceptions that can be cogently argued.

I wouldn't be overly concerned about the acts themselves; rather focus on the intentions and motivations from which you are operating.
 
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