"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You can change the overall look and feel of the forum in your preferences. Choosing the colors removes the 100% stretch and causes the forum to format to around 900 pixels wide or so.
 

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Borders need to be more defined, its currently pretty hard to tell whose post belongs to whom. Also, I think putting the username up above the avatar will help clear things up even more.
 

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The "blue" is better for me too. I kinda liked the old look that we had on this forum...In the end it is about content and not looks so keep up the work
 

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RIP green dots. ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■

We'll definitely miss our little laughing icon, the one where the guy is slamming his fist down. And good riddance to the cheerleader and the flowers.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It may come back. There are millions of options on this site that the administration can still implement. You can still expect changes during the next few months.
 

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TBH, I like this new minimal/clean look. To each their own, I suppose.
 

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Borders need to be more defined, its currently pretty hard to tell whose post belongs to whom. Also, I think putting the username up above the avatar will help clear things up even more.
Yeah, I disagree with the second part though, just adding some space between different posts would help.


Also tried the blue theme and it looks great, but the main body still looks white and as stated by smasher it's slightly hard to read (combined with the current font)
 

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I liked the old themes better, such as Tigra... This'll take some getting used to.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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First gotta thank you guys for the new forum, it's much better and more accessible than the old one.

I'm' talking about the backgrounds and post body. The current theme lacks contrast and is slightly hard to read and navigate.

Examples

https://0.s3.envato.com/files/108662338/02_xenforo_metro_forumhome_modern.png

https://brivium.com/attachments/05_desktop_view-png.7812/

http://www.audentio.com/demo/xf/index.php?threads/example-thread.15/

http://xf1.artodia.com/demo.php?demo=xf&id=elegance2
I like the first link, the metro blue theme. It feels like a mix of old and new. I also like that its more square, like the old forum. The new forum has a lot of rounded edges that Im not a fan of at the moment.
 

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Well trying to read the "quotes" just burned my eyeballs. Maybe a color change there in that scheme or whatever.

And, hey can swear yet? **** **** **** balls.
 

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Also, quick browse through the forum and I can't tell what threads I've posted/conversated in. Am I missing something?

***** ***** ass *** ****
 

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RIP green dots. ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■

We'll definitely miss our little laughing icon, the one where the guy is slamming his fist down. And good riddance to the cheerleader and the flowers.
Agree, the "crackup" laughing icon should come back at least as an option...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Also, quick browse through the forum and I can't tell what threads I've posted/conversated in. Am I missing something?

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Go scroll up to the top and you will see forums, your user name, inbox and alerts. Click on your user name. A box will come down. Click on your content. It will all come up.
 

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Also, quick browse through the forum and I can't tell what threads I've posted/conversated in. Am I missing something?

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If you look at the Avatar for the thread, you will see your own "sub-avatar" in the lower right section of the main one. This indicates that you've posted in that thread.
 

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If you look at the Avatar for the thread, you will see your own "sub-avatar" in the lower right section of the main one. This indicates that you've posted in that thread.
I see that now. I don't think it works for older posts though, at least not what I'm seeing.
 

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Hey guys, any updates on aesthetics changes? It's a bit hard to read due to extremely bright backgrounds. I would appreciate it if you tweak the default theme, thanks.
 

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You have a few options on changing the forum to your liking. Scroll all the way down and you should see it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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