"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should the blue look and feel return?

Should the blue theme from the old forum be used again?

  • Yes

    Votes: 8 66.7%
  • No it's fine

    Votes: 4 33.3%

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Atom Smasher

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You can change the overall look and feel of the forum in your preferences. Choosing the colors removes the 100% stretch and causes the forum to format to around 900 pixels wide or so.
 

Konada

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Borders need to be more defined, its currently pretty hard to tell whose post belongs to whom. Also, I think putting the username up above the avatar will help clear things up even more.
 

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The "blue" is better for me too. I kinda liked the old look that we had on this forum...In the end it is about content and not looks so keep up the work
 

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RIP green dots. ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■

We'll definitely miss our little laughing icon, the one where the guy is slamming his fist down. And good riddance to the cheerleader and the flowers.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It may come back. There are millions of options on this site that the administration can still implement. You can still expect changes during the next few months.
 

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TBH, I like this new minimal/clean look. To each their own, I suppose.
 

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Borders need to be more defined, its currently pretty hard to tell whose post belongs to whom. Also, I think putting the username up above the avatar will help clear things up even more.
Yeah, I disagree with the second part though, just adding some space between different posts would help.


Also tried the blue theme and it looks great, but the main body still looks white and as stated by smasher it's slightly hard to read (combined with the current font)
 

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I liked the old themes better, such as Tigra... This'll take some getting used to.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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First gotta thank you guys for the new forum, it's much better and more accessible than the old one.

I'm' talking about the backgrounds and post body. The current theme lacks contrast and is slightly hard to read and navigate.

Examples

https://0.s3.envato.com/files/108662338/02_xenforo_metro_forumhome_modern.png

https://brivium.com/attachments/05_desktop_view-png.7812/

http://www.audentio.com/demo/xf/index.php?threads/example-thread.15/

http://xf1.artodia.com/demo.php?demo=xf&id=elegance2
I like the first link, the metro blue theme. It feels like a mix of old and new. I also like that its more square, like the old forum. The new forum has a lot of rounded edges that Im not a fan of at the moment.
 

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Well trying to read the "quotes" just burned my eyeballs. Maybe a color change there in that scheme or whatever.

And, hey can swear yet? **** **** **** balls.
 

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Also, quick browse through the forum and I can't tell what threads I've posted/conversated in. Am I missing something?

***** ***** ass *** ****
 

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RIP green dots. ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■

We'll definitely miss our little laughing icon, the one where the guy is slamming his fist down. And good riddance to the cheerleader and the flowers.
Agree, the "crackup" laughing icon should come back at least as an option...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Also, quick browse through the forum and I can't tell what threads I've posted/conversated in. Am I missing something?

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Go scroll up to the top and you will see forums, your user name, inbox and alerts. Click on your user name. A box will come down. Click on your content. It will all come up.
 

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Also, quick browse through the forum and I can't tell what threads I've posted/conversated in. Am I missing something?

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If you look at the Avatar for the thread, you will see your own "sub-avatar" in the lower right section of the main one. This indicates that you've posted in that thread.
 

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If you look at the Avatar for the thread, you will see your own "sub-avatar" in the lower right section of the main one. This indicates that you've posted in that thread.
I see that now. I don't think it works for older posts though, at least not what I'm seeing.
 

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Hey guys, any updates on aesthetics changes? It's a bit hard to read due to extremely bright backgrounds. I would appreciate it if you tweak the default theme, thanks.
 

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You have a few options on changing the forum to your liking. Scroll all the way down and you should see it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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