"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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should my girl do this?

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TheHumanist wrote:

"Interesting... she is going to a bar with the girls.. She asked for permission, but of course you can't. This is where trust is required. Outside your watchful eye, you have to believe she is cares as much as you do.

Then LMS (follow by icecream, wayword, aliasguy, etc.) comes and says that if she going to be loyal, she would have never wanted to go to a bar in the first place. If she is, her nature is corrupted even if she asks. Hmm..."

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I never said that "...if she going to be loyal, she would have never wanted to go..."

I actively encouraged the OP to not object to her going.


If she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat. If not, not. I'm all in favor of not being possessive or "controlling." Don't lump me in with LMS, et al.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she is going to the bar, cuz she wants to have some fun...and that 'fun' has a trace of attention whorism to it, whether you'd like to believe it or not. after all no woman is an angel:rolleyes: You just allow her to go and always remember to prepare yourself for anything. simple.
 
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ducaro said:
You just allow her to go and always remember to prepare yourself for anything. simple.
Disrespect should never be allowed!!!

Weak, nice name BTW :rolleyes:, do not call her "your" girl, because she is not under your lead!!!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
A woman doesn't go to a bar without her man ---- period!!!! (Rather exclamation point!) She knows this!! Modern women try to act like they don't know the answer but they already do know the answer -- that is why she asked you if you minded!!! She knows it's not right but she does it anyway!! What does this tell you?? It's all about her wants at the expense of your disrespect!!!

Quit being a fool - it bothers you and all men who care about their girl. Men prey on woman at bars because we assume they're there, at the bar, because they are making themselves available to us!!!! Women know this!!! The question is why don't you know???

Wow. Then I guess your girlfriend can only work with girls, eat lunch with girls, be on the train with girls, and go to an all girls school. I hope your buddies never ask you to go to a bar to watch the football game, your gf could get worried that you would sleep the first tight-a$$ girl there.

Let her do what she wants. If I wanted to go a bar with my buddies and my girl said no, I would be so angry and bitter. Not everyone wants to have sex all the time in every environment.
 
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