"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Willspearec

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There's this girl at school who I think is interested, but I'm not sure. Her body language says that she isn't. But everytime she looks at me her eyes say otherwise. Mixed message? I have no clue if she's interested. She also has quite a bit of guy friends, but she's single. What does that tell about her? Idk.
Question: Should I try and approach her? It wont be easy since she constantly surrounded by either other guys, or her own friends.

Help.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KillaCam

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Attention wh0re. Craves the flirtation, digs the attention, and can't do much else.

If you're insistent on having her, try and isolate her, call her bluff, and go for the kill. But attention wh0res aren't usually worth the effort.
 

djweses89

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doesnt acually mean shes a ***** she could be most likley is but what you could do find a time when all those guys arnt around her or not as many or have a lil get together at your house get her to come that way you have controll over everything plenty of time to talk to her alone haha and if shes a ***** plenty of time to get some action in. but also just talk to her if you do the things right then you should be able to make her more intrested in you than any of the other guys. but most likley like the guy above me said shes probley a ***** if so dont try to make a relationship out of it just beat it and leave it
 

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just go up to her dude and talk to her
thats your first step
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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djweses89

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oh yea read the article called A Little Patience talks about not to freak out if you dont get that body language at first all that just means its taking her time to soak it all in that a guy like you is acually trying to hook up wit her. and if it is she is just a tease or dont like you then screw it move on to the next girl
 

Willspearec

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Hey thanx for the article. That might explain some things. But now I'm not so sure that she's interested. I could have talked to this girl today, but I just didnt want to, maybe I didnt want to feel like the Rick person.Idk. I think she's not in my league. I only see her in the hall.and maybe I'm overthinking some stuff. She's constantly interacting with a bunch of guys. Yet she's single. Idk.
Just a question how would I know if she's a tease?
 

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...Qucik question? HAve you ever talked to her? lol, I mean I look at a lot of girls and they look at me, doesn't mean they want me lol. It's just common sense, if you can't tell when a girl wants you or if she's flirting with you read the high school bible it will help you for now.
 

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Will, ur totally over thinkin, man. jus walk up to her whens she's alone and talk to her. there has to be at least one time when she's not surrounded by other dudes. coming up to her when she's surrounded....dont take the chance. u will most likely fail to get her attention and be left out of the loop of conversation and look like an idiot if u yell, since ur competing with a bunch of other dudes who r her friends. but jus look for a time when she is all alone, then jus walk up to her, and do ur thing. good luck,lol.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Willspearec

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She's never alone, the times that I see her. And I've decided that she's not in my league. And I'm not going to risk my dignity trying to find out if she is or not. I'm just surprised that she's single.
 
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