"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Should I?

Willspearec

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There's this girl at school who I think is interested, but I'm not sure. Her body language says that she isn't. But everytime she looks at me her eyes say otherwise. Mixed message? I have no clue if she's interested. She also has quite a bit of guy friends, but she's single. What does that tell about her? Idk.
Question: Should I try and approach her? It wont be easy since she constantly surrounded by either other guys, or her own friends.

Help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KillaCam

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Attention wh0re. Craves the flirtation, digs the attention, and can't do much else.

If you're insistent on having her, try and isolate her, call her bluff, and go for the kill. But attention wh0res aren't usually worth the effort.
 

djweses89

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doesnt acually mean shes a ***** she could be most likley is but what you could do find a time when all those guys arnt around her or not as many or have a lil get together at your house get her to come that way you have controll over everything plenty of time to talk to her alone haha and if shes a ***** plenty of time to get some action in. but also just talk to her if you do the things right then you should be able to make her more intrested in you than any of the other guys. but most likley like the guy above me said shes probley a ***** if so dont try to make a relationship out of it just beat it and leave it
 

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just go up to her dude and talk to her
thats your first step
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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djweses89

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oh yea read the article called A Little Patience talks about not to freak out if you dont get that body language at first all that just means its taking her time to soak it all in that a guy like you is acually trying to hook up wit her. and if it is she is just a tease or dont like you then screw it move on to the next girl
 

Willspearec

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Hey thanx for the article. That might explain some things. But now I'm not so sure that she's interested. I could have talked to this girl today, but I just didnt want to, maybe I didnt want to feel like the Rick person.Idk. I think she's not in my league. I only see her in the hall.and maybe I'm overthinking some stuff. She's constantly interacting with a bunch of guys. Yet she's single. Idk.
Just a question how would I know if she's a tease?
 

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...Qucik question? HAve you ever talked to her? lol, I mean I look at a lot of girls and they look at me, doesn't mean they want me lol. It's just common sense, if you can't tell when a girl wants you or if she's flirting with you read the high school bible it will help you for now.
 

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Will, ur totally over thinkin, man. jus walk up to her whens she's alone and talk to her. there has to be at least one time when she's not surrounded by other dudes. coming up to her when she's surrounded....dont take the chance. u will most likely fail to get her attention and be left out of the loop of conversation and look like an idiot if u yell, since ur competing with a bunch of other dudes who r her friends. but jus look for a time when she is all alone, then jus walk up to her, and do ur thing. good luck,lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Willspearec

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She's never alone, the times that I see her. And I've decided that she's not in my league. And I'm not going to risk my dignity trying to find out if she is or not. I'm just surprised that she's single.
 
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