Okay, here's the story. So I'm on Facebook and I'm talking to this girl from my College and we get a pretty good vibe, she's answering back and stuff. But eventually when I try to move conversation on, girl stops replying and is constantly logging on and off. Busy? Not interested? I don't even f*cking know. I just know we had a good vibe then the girl suddenly stopped responding. Few minutes later(When I stopped trying to start a convo again) the girl logs off for good. Eh... who cares though, I'll be able to game her better in person when I see her at band camp.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Should I worry about this?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She could be getting a lousy internet connection. It's happened where mine was the internet cutting me out when I was talking to a girl I liked (and who liked me as well it turned out).
So it could just be nothing. I wouldn't worry too much about it one way or the other.
So it could just be nothing. I wouldn't worry too much about it one way or the other.
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what college are you going to?
ARrocket
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ElStud said:Okay, here's the story. So I'm on Facebook and I'm talking to this girl from my College and we get a pretty good vibe, she's answering back and stuff. But eventually when I try to move conversation on, girl stops replying and is constantly logging on and off. Busy? Not interested? I don't even f*cking know. I just know we had a good vibe then the girl suddenly stopped responding. Few minutes later(When I stopped trying to start a convo again) the girl logs off for good. Eh... who cares though, I'll be able to game her better in person when I see her at band camp.
The facebook IM thingy has bugs....this happens often.
Now then, don't worry about it. She'll get back to you soon enough. You can wait a week or so then write something brief on her wall if you wish.
Now then...I'm curious. Where are you going to school this fall? And what happened to all those numbers you got during the school year? Did you call them up??
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If he says he really likes you than there is definitely something more than simply him ignoring you, because if he were ignoring you, then he wouldn't enjoy being around you and telling you he likes you.
About whether or not you two are a couple, you should talk to him and say something like "hey do you think we're a couple now?" say it casually, don't catch him off guard, lead up to the question.
About whether or not you two are a couple, you should talk to him and say something like "hey do you think we're a couple now?" say it casually, don't catch him off guard, lead up to the question.
Flabbergasped?
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ElStud, in my experience, it's hard to translate facebook conversations into the real deal. I've spoken to some girls about it, and they say that anyone that introduces themselves with "we met/talked on facebook" is immediately a creep (personally, I think so too).
My advice is, when you do meet this person, act as if you aven't talked to her before or you forgot who she is. Let her bring up the facebook thing. It's in your best interest.
My advice is, when you do meet this person, act as if you aven't talked to her before or you forgot who she is. Let her bring up the facebook thing. It's in your best interest.
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I think you should wait until you're actually at college to start hitting on girls at your college.
ARrocket
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I tried to do the same thing he's doing, and I came to the same conclusion as this.MikeYikes122 said:I think you should wait until you're actually at college to start hitting on girls at your college.