I've been seeing a woman for 2 months. We have shared some good times together and all seems well. She does not want an exclusive relationship and she told me that from the start. I was fine with such feelings 2 months ago. However, the more time I spend with her the more my feelings rise. I just don’t know how we can build any foundation without being exclusive at least for time being. I often think she does not know what she wants out of life or in my case, a relationship. Further, I often find myself wondering If I should walk away from her albeit her interest in me. Any thoughts?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Should I walk?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dude...she made it clear..VERY clear that she did not want an an exclusive relationship.
And what do you do? You fall in love with her.
How could that be possible? Well...because you treated the relationship as exclusive and NOT like the FWB it was supposed to be.
If you would have followed the agreement...the one falling in love would have been you.
Another thing..."I often think she does not know what she wants out of life " - Who cares? The important thing is understanding what YOU want out of life.
And what do you do? You fall in love with her.
How could that be possible? Well...because you treated the relationship as exclusive and NOT like the FWB it was supposed to be.
If you would have followed the agreement...the one falling in love would have been you.
Another thing..."I often think she does not know what she wants out of life " - Who cares? The important thing is understanding what YOU want out of life.
I agree.Blusher said:Obviously, you two seem to disagree on a crucial aspect of your relationship.
If you wanted her to be your FB, then fine, but from what i read that is not the case.
You want an exclusive relationship, she doesn't. Respect yourself, stand up for what you think is right and break up with her.
There are girls out there who want an exclusive relationship. Why stay with one that doesn't?
If she (your feelings for her) is preventing you from getting what you want (an exclusive gf) then yes, walk.
If not then use her for sex BUT you don't owe her anything and you should proceed on your terms not her's.
Don't try to change her or win her. This will only make you look needy and desparate in her eyes and she will end up liking you less.
If not then use her for sex BUT you don't owe her anything and you should proceed on your terms not her's.
Don't try to change her or win her. This will only make you look needy and desparate in her eyes and she will end up liking you less.
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One: You have oneitis.
Two: She's not the only gal you can have strong feelings for.
Three: Date as many as you can and let the cream rise to the top.
Four: While you're dating others, be seen by the current flakey gal so she knows you're the prize, not her.
Trust me, that's the pattern you should take, whether you're 20 or 40.
Two: She's not the only gal you can have strong feelings for.
Three: Date as many as you can and let the cream rise to the top.
Four: While you're dating others, be seen by the current flakey gal so she knows you're the prize, not her.
Trust me, that's the pattern you should take, whether you're 20 or 40.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's some B.S. she is using to make you believe that crap. What in REALLITY is happening is this: (see quote below)She is actually a single mom and is afraid to be hurt again.
flexion_ said:She doesn't want a LTR. Clearly she is seeing other people and you aren't.