I've been seeing a woman for 2 months. We have shared some good times together and all seems well. She does not want an exclusive relationship and she told me that from the start. I was fine with such feelings 2 months ago. However, the more time I spend with her the more my feelings rise. I just don’t know how we can build any foundation without being exclusive at least for time being. I often think she does not know what she wants out of life or in my case, a relationship. Further, I often find myself wondering If I should walk away from her albeit her interest in me. Any thoughts?
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Should I walk?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dude...she made it clear..VERY clear that she did not want an an exclusive relationship.
And what do you do? You fall in love with her.
How could that be possible? Well...because you treated the relationship as exclusive and NOT like the FWB it was supposed to be.
If you would have followed the agreement...the one falling in love would have been you.
Another thing..."I often think she does not know what she wants out of life " - Who cares? The important thing is understanding what YOU want out of life.
And what do you do? You fall in love with her.
How could that be possible? Well...because you treated the relationship as exclusive and NOT like the FWB it was supposed to be.
If you would have followed the agreement...the one falling in love would have been you.
Another thing..."I often think she does not know what she wants out of life " - Who cares? The important thing is understanding what YOU want out of life.
I agree.Blusher said:Obviously, you two seem to disagree on a crucial aspect of your relationship.
If you wanted her to be your FB, then fine, but from what i read that is not the case.
You want an exclusive relationship, she doesn't. Respect yourself, stand up for what you think is right and break up with her.
There are girls out there who want an exclusive relationship. Why stay with one that doesn't?
If she (your feelings for her) is preventing you from getting what you want (an exclusive gf) then yes, walk.
If not then use her for sex BUT you don't owe her anything and you should proceed on your terms not her's.
Don't try to change her or win her. This will only make you look needy and desparate in her eyes and she will end up liking you less.
If not then use her for sex BUT you don't owe her anything and you should proceed on your terms not her's.
Don't try to change her or win her. This will only make you look needy and desparate in her eyes and she will end up liking you less.
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One: You have oneitis.
Two: She's not the only gal you can have strong feelings for.
Three: Date as many as you can and let the cream rise to the top.
Four: While you're dating others, be seen by the current flakey gal so she knows you're the prize, not her.
Trust me, that's the pattern you should take, whether you're 20 or 40.
Two: She's not the only gal you can have strong feelings for.
Three: Date as many as you can and let the cream rise to the top.
Four: While you're dating others, be seen by the current flakey gal so she knows you're the prize, not her.
Trust me, that's the pattern you should take, whether you're 20 or 40.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That's some B.S. she is using to make you believe that crap. What in REALLITY is happening is this: (see quote below)She is actually a single mom and is afraid to be hurt again.
flexion_ said:She doesn't want a LTR. Clearly she is seeing other people and you aren't.