"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Should I txt her before the date (as a worm up?)
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Nutz
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If she's going to flake she'll latch onto this as her opportunity to flake. If she says it's okay then it's a fair bet she'll show up.
Another method I've learned is:
If they text you they're on their way then the date is still a go. If not, then do something else. If they don't text and do show then it's their own fault for not texting you like they were supposed to.
Either method will significantly reduce the time wasted dealing with flakes.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This message can be translated in a wrong way. As in; "i cant wait till our date is over, so i can do other things instead of hanging out with you".Pr0lab said:
And by asking her "how was her day", will possibly go in to a long txt swapping convo about how your and her day was. So save the questions for when you meet her.
Just say; "i'm on my way, see you in 20min". Its to the point, simple and shows that you are responsible.
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she'll reply either, "wat?" or "lol wat?" (second one shows a lil more interest)
say, "promise to behave
"then take it from there. Try to end it after the second text, don't keep texting back and forth!
On your actual date, you can talk about how girls behave bad, how they're brats, etc.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Keep us posted brah.
She claims she has no time because of school, she sends txts and says sorry I can do it blah blah blah... the school is 2hr away so it's not an option to go on a date to her campus and she doesn't come back home often. but this is her last semester. so I am thinking to write something like "was nice to meet you. It was a bad idea to ask you out before school starts and I am also have no time now. I still think you're an interesting person to get to know.
but when fall semester ends you gonna take me out for a coffee for all the troubles
" On one hand she seams to be interested in the date but on the other she goes running(facebook) as opposed to go out with me
How is that? I just have no power in this situation at all, so I try to maneuver as much as I can to give it a chance when she's back.
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I'd say that's a bad way to frame the text. It'll put her on the defensive. It's hard to say if she's really interested though. One one hand if a woman wants to date you she'll take roadblocks out of the way, not put them up. And it sounds as if she's hiding behind the logistics so she doesn't have to date you instead of working to overcome them. On the other hand she did offer up alternatives, so that's a VERY good sign. I'd say try to find a middle ground, stick it out for the semester, then see where things stand.Pr0lab said:So this is the situation ...
She claims she has no time because of school, she sends txts and says sorry I can do it blah blah blah... the school is 2hr away so it's not an option to go on a date to her campus and she doesn't come back home often. but this is her last semester. so I am thinking to write something like "was nice to meet you. It was a bad idea to ask you out before school starts and I am also have no time now. I still think you're an interesting person to get to know.
but when fall semester ends you gonna take me out for a coffee for all the troubles
On one hand she seams to be interested in the date but on the other she goes running(facebook) as opposed to go out with me
How is that? I just have no power in this situation at all, so I try to maneuver as much as I can to give it a chance when she's back.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.