ok this waitress comes into my work almost every friday night. and when i ring her up she seems to smile alot and jokes with me. i was thinkin about askin her if she would like to smoke with me and then try and get ehr digits afterwards if it went well. should i try it? i know nothin about this girl but she looks semi decent and seems pretty chill.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
should i try for her digits?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
well i wasnt lookin for a no i was hopin for some1 to tell me it isnt a stupid thing to do. usually i wouldnt even think about doin it, and cuz of that im basically a amatuer. i hope she stops in 2 morro cuz i really need to get my **** 2gether and maybe it wont be as hard to aproach girls when im out
Thats the first thing you need to know here. If you see a girl you like, MAKE A MOVE, and dont let anything stop you. Why wouldnt it be a good idea to approach this girl? Worse case scenario, she says no. Best case scenario.... use your imagination.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
Yes.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
strong like bull
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use the search function to find "Sexuality Projection" , by Ojete
the problem is that youre overthinking such a simple, natural process. get in touch with the desires you have as a man. you like her, you want her, so go for her. leave all the worrying and analyzing behind.
-SLB
the problem is that youre overthinking such a simple, natural process. get in touch with the desires you have as a man. you like her, you want her, so go for her. leave all the worrying and analyzing behind.
-SLB
)but its better then bein 230 and havin a huge gut.get this **** the 1 time im ready and confident to ask this girl her number and stuff she doesnt come in lol. she is there every friday night and the 1 time i was gonna make a move she decided not to come. now i gotta wait till next week if ima try it.... lol
MascaraSnake
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sigh
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
DonGorgon
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numbers mean nothing you should have called her up long ago and started the game you will have to play