I met a girl in class the other day. She approached me and later ended up giving me her number. The next day I told her we should go out for drinks after class, which she agreed to. This "date" or whatever you wanna call it is 4 days away. should I call/text her between now and then?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
should i text/call her before we hang out?
- Thread starter duke104
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The proper answer is...
A real man would text a girl whenever he felt like it. He would not delve into tactical preparation
So basically, if you feel like texting this girl, do it... but do not come across as pathetic or needy. Keep it light and funny
Humour wins hearts.
A real man would text a girl whenever he felt like it. He would not delve into tactical preparation
So basically, if you feel like texting this girl, do it... but do not come across as pathetic or needy. Keep it light and funny
Humour wins hearts.
Johnnyventana
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No fkn way! Just show up. Be cool, yo.
You already made plans. There is anticipation which = good. Why ruin in? Unless you're texting to save her: there is a bomb in her building, I'm pretty sure whatever you have to say can wait for in person. Keep the anticipation. you only get one shot at 'new.'
You already made plans. There is anticipation which = good. Why ruin in? Unless you're texting to save her: there is a bomb in her building, I'm pretty sure whatever you have to say can wait for in person. Keep the anticipation. you only get one shot at 'new.'
ELMER_GANTRY
Don Juan
just show up for your date, you already made plans for the drinks.