should I tell her im inexperienced?

[PlatoPacks23]

so seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date) and when we left and I walked her to her car we made out for a bit and was like "that's 50% better" after I tried to give a quick kiss and she went in for make out. someone I want to be in a long term relationship with too...

we also spent a lot of time on the date going deep into both our lives so she's someone who likes to be vulnerable and honest

it's clear to me she has more experience, and I am very inexperienced sexually. im not a virgin necessarily but I am definitely super inexperienced and am unsure how to approach it moving forward with her.. I've read a bunch of sites like 90% that you should just tell her ahead of time bc she'll realize it anyway PLUS it's worse if she doesn't know how inexperienced you are and it's bad.

but I've also read just to not tell her because it's a turn off. what would people recommend?

 

[Deranged]

Dude, don't be so insecure about your experience. You've decided you want to fvck a slut, so here's your opportunity. You're about to get your knob wet. Don't tell her shvt or you run the risk of shooting yourself in the foot. Sit back and enjoy the ride.
Never stop working on yourself brother.

 

[pipeman84]

so seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date)

someone I want to be in a long term relationship with too...

Sounds like she's a hoe, why would you want to enter a relationship with her?

what would people recommend?

No need to get into any details about your life and that includes your sexual experiences ... she's not your therapist. Don't forget to use a condom.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Plato,
No,say nothing,you will soon get the hang of it,as Amsterdam says"....every Woman is different...."If she says something(which she wont)just tell her that...To be disengenous is not being dishonest...Watch a few Video clips on the topic,and be slow and gentle,you will be fine!

 

[CornbreadFed]

She will know if you are inexperienced based on your attitude and presentation, not sexual performance. Sexual performance does not improve by a high count of One-night stands, more so sensory, perceptual skills, preferences of the girl, and size combability. You could have sex with her right now and possibly be better than the player Chad she screwed from Bumble last week.

 

[Nitrozv20]

What are you comparing it too, just have fun man and explore her... if youre comparing it to a porno that is unrealistic.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Why would you do that? Just proceed to bang her when you get the chance.

Also a woman who is that sexually experienced is not a woman you want to be in a long term relationship...she should qualify as a plate at best.

Gotta up your standards. A woman doesn't qualify for an LTR just cause she is into you and you think she is hot.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Well, not marriage or monogamy, but I'd certainly enjoy a long term relationship with a hot woman who's into me.

If she is a ho?

Not worth it unless you have no options.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Wait a minute. Are you calling a hot woman being into me a sex worker? Or do you mean just slut? Because sluts I can work with, I'm quite the slut myself...

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You can tell me, you just want me to send my sluts over, don't you?

There is a big difference between the standard you should have for a FWB or plate versus a long term GF/fiance/wife.

If more men understood this, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

 

[Macadellic]

OP,
You want to get experience
Every girl you date you learn from and it will set you up to be better for the next one.

Do you remember your first sports game?
Your first fist fight?
your first friendship with the boys?

Did you tell the other team you are inexperienced
Tell the kid in elementary school it’s your first fist fight?
tell the boys it’s your first friendship?

Dafuk?

 

[corrector]

so seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date)

You don't know where that tongue has been.

 

[Hal9000]

Kind of depends. If you're 21 and not that experienced she may find it endearing and view it as a positive, or at worst neutral, thing. If you're 45 then she's gonna assume there's some reason and she's missing something that everyone else has noticed about you. Those are the extremes but context is important for these sort of things.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Pour honey on her nipples and suck them until she wants to fvck, then lead her to the bathroom and wash her. If you do that, you won't have to look for her poussy, she'll probably ride you in the shower.

Here, some clickbait, to inundate you.
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Posting an AI girl is supposed to be clickbait?

 

[kzar_kzar]

if you are horny and hungry she will not notice. lol.

 

[sosuave213]

any updates OP?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Pour honey on her nipples and suck them until she wants to fvck, then lead her to the bathroom and wash her. If you do that, you won't have to look for her poussy, she'll probably ride you in the shower.

Here, some clickbait, to inundate you.
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Mine looked liked Beyoncé

 

[tightgrp]

so seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date) and when we left and I walked her to her car we made out for a bit and was like "that's 50% better" after I tried to give a quick kiss and she went in for make out. someone I want to be in a long term relationship with too...

we also spent a lot of time on the date going deep into both our lives so she's someone who likes to be vulnerable and honest

it's clear to me she has more experience, and I am very inexperienced sexually. im not a virgin necessarily but I am definitely super inexperienced and am unsure how to approach it moving forward with her.. I've read a bunch of sites like 90% that you should just tell her ahead of time bc she'll realize it anyway PLUS it's worse if she doesn't know how inexperienced you are and it's bad.

but I've also read just to not tell her because it's a turn off. what would people recommend?

You go to hire a plumber. The first one you call, based on a really good ad, says, "I've only done this a few times." What are you going to say/do?

 

[sosuave213]

OP thinks it's going to make her feel special or is sending off weak vibes...

Yeah I never ever told this to women.

 

[Rainman4707]

so seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date) and when we left and I walked her to her car we made out for a bit and was like "that's 50% better" after I tried to give a quick kiss and she went in for make out. someone I want to be in a long term relationship with too...

we also spent a lot of time on the date going deep into both our lives so she's someone who likes to be vulnerable and honest

it's clear to me she has more experience, and I am very inexperienced sexually. im not a virgin necessarily but I am definitely super inexperienced and am unsure how to approach it moving forward with her.. I've read a bunch of sites like 90% that you should just tell her ahead of time bc she'll realize it anyway PLUS it's worse if she doesn't know how inexperienced you are and it's bad.

but I've also read just to not tell her because it's a turn off. what would people recommend?

Don't make a big deal out of it, telling her makes it a bigger issue than it is.

You're supposed to be relaxed when being intimate with a woman. The worst thing you can is overthink and stress, Relax, enjoy her company. You don't have to have sex. Just watch a movie, kiss, cuddle enjoy yourself, no pressure. Let things happen naturally.

 

[member162951]

I'm seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date)

It's unclear why you think she's "a lot more sexual/sensual than you imagined"? Because she used tongue? Or did she actually tell you?

I see many assumptions being made here - she's a slvt, she's a hoe, and advising you to not LTR her because of this one comment - she used tongue and you "made out." SMH

Last I checked, it's quite standard to use tongue when kissing, even a first kiss. And making out is not uncommon either when there is a mutual attraction and chemistry which it sounds like there was.

Hell, she could be a virgin for all you know but a great kisser! And really into you.

Unless she told you her notch count and it was high or she otherwise told you she's f*cked a lot of men, I wouldn’t assume anything especially when it's based on how she, um kisses?

Don't say a word about your inexperience; if the chemistry is right, it won't matter and you may surprise yourself with your ability to be passionate and a great lover.

Despite popular opinion much of how good you are is based on instinct, mutual chemistry and desire and how well you vibe physically and emotionally in my opinion and experience.