"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Should I Start a DJ Journal Here?

nicksaiz65

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Hi guys, reading around the site and I've seen several people post journals over the course of several months. I find them really inspirational, seeing how far the people progress. I was thinking about doing my own over the course of 9 months, would you guys be interested in that?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Think it's always interesting to read people's journeys as long as they post the insights they have along the way. Part of what makes this community so great is the continuous development and contributions to it.
 

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Hi guys, reading around the site and I've seen several people post journals over the course of several months. I find them really inspirational, seeing how far the people progress. I was thinking about doing my own over the course of 9 months, would you guys be interested in that?
Definitely. Especially if you post your goals/intentions ahead of time, and FORCE yourself to post on a regular basis to update your progress.

Just knowing you have to post "I wanted to talk to a girl but a pvssed out" may push you off the fence and get you across the room.

I'd recommend taking a 9-month goal, breaking it down into one month and one week subgoals, and then posting weekly with updates (previous weeks numbers and next weeks targets).

Well Formed Goals

Make sure they are measurable (number of girls talked to, approaches made, etc.)

Under Your Control (getting laid requires her consent which isn't under your control, so it doesn't make for the best goal)

Time Sensitive (post the goals per week/month, etc. and stick to them)

If you value the input from others who have been successful and wish to learn from their methods and experience, then yes, start a journal
I'd actually recommend specifically IGNORING input from members, unless you specifically ask for advice on how to proceed. Otherwise it's easy to get your chosen goals "outframed" by keyboard jockeys. It's too easy to get their goals confused with yours. But don't feel the need to ask for any advice if you don't want it. Posting your goals/progress consistently is a good way to stay motivated. For that reason only I'd say go for it.
 

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Thanks for all the input guys! I’m typing that first post right now
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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