"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I show more interest or what?

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Bonafide

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I mean like a few chicks will playfully flirt with me...but I get this sense that they are just ****ing around because im a pretty attractive guy but I dont ask girls out or anything like that...so I Get this feeling that they are suspicious of me and are just trying to play me to get a reaction or something and it really bothers me because I want to make a move and f4ck their brains out but im afraid dat if I do try to do so they might just turn and laugh at me...but like they might flirt with me for two days and then the next few days not even say a word to me, maybe jus some slight eye contact...and then these few girls will start the flirting again
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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n00bPimp said:
Do a search on value creation. These girls maybe a little attracted to you physically but dont see you as a sex partner. They don't see you as having much value to them. Create some value and they you will be getting punani left and right
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I'm having trouble finding a good thread on it...could you direct us to a thread?
 
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Here is my advice. Try taking it to another level. Come back and report with what happend.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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