"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Should I settle for less

Black Casanova

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I never had a g/f before but using this stuff has helped.

But the girl I think likes me, I dont really like that much.
Should I just ask her out for social proof or whatever?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Porky

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no. you won't be happy.
 

NYC Dude

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As the above poster said, using a girl for "practice" is a pretty good idea. My first relationship was with a girl that I was into, but most of it was spent experimenting with lots of firsts. Now I'm prepared for future relationships, and I won't have to worry about kissing/etc. at all now.
 

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Originally posted by NYC Dude
As the above poster said, using a girl for "practice" is a pretty good idea. My first relationship was with a girl that I was into, but most of it was spent experimenting with lots of firsts. Now I'm prepared for future relationships, and I won't have to worry about kissing/etc. at all now.
Don't let her trick you though get out when it starts to become scary!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jonny football hero

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Fck social proof. Do what you want.
 

TyTe`EyEs

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Originally posted by jonny football hero
Fck social proof. Do what you want.

That's what I'm talking about. :D
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
I would usually say no...But if you've never been in a relationship before, it might be a good idea to get some "practice" if you know what I'm saying.
I agree with this. If you have a girlfriend you will get noticed.

Its kinda like publicity:

Any publicity is good publicity
 

Smooth as Anything

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Never.
 

AC/DC

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Originally posted by Vincent
Any publicity is good publicity
Immediately Michael Jackson comes to mind. Any time you see this guy on the news, you know it's about him and kinds.. and they're not his.

Tell the girl you just want to mess around (so you can practice), and you're not looking for a relationship becuase you don't have the time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by AC/DC
you're not looking for a relationship becuase you don't have the time.
No comment.

**** buddy is a good idea.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Something to consider:

People tend to settle for things that they believe they worth. ;)
 

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NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN WHAT YOU WANT
 
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