"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I send flowers to my ex?

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I turned it around some too. I'm creating mystery by telling her there's a story behind the flowers but I won't tell her. I also turned her words around so she'll take me out to dinner when she comes back.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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itishe said:
I turned it around some too. I'm creating mystery by telling her there's a story behind the flowers but I won't tell her. I also turned her words around so she'll take me out to dinner when she comes back.
Dude, I wouldn't tell her the true story or you're not gonna get any.
 

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Kev no.

She bought me gifts for my B-day about two weeks in advance of my B-day. She told me about it. But since we weren't going out and we didn't talk about if we'd be just FB's or what I ended up making out with two of her good friends, and the next week finger ****ing one of them. This pissed her off so she decided to not sedt my present to me. Things came around and she sent it out about 3 days ago.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I wonder that IF he tells her the true story...what her reaction would be?

Listen dude...if you send her flowers to make YOU feel good...then no harm done.

We are not talking here some random chick you just met and she appears to be thoughful enough as to send you something for your birthday.

I do believe, however...that you are paying WAY too much attention to an EX that lives far away. Neglecting some potential girls near by.
 

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3 days ago?

LOL.

How convenient...it kills two birds with one shot: "Valentine and birthday". And now you are going to feel compelled to do the same...but this time with a second present. Her birthday.

;)
 

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Latinoman said:
I wonder that IF he tells her the true story...what her reaction would be?

Listen dude...if you send her flowers to make YOU feel good...then no harm done.

We are not talking here some random chick you just met and she appears to be thoughful enough as to send you something for your birthday.

I do believe, however...that you are paying WAY too much attention to an EX that lives far away. Neglecting some potential girls near by.
Latino I agree I pay her more attention that she deserves, but then again she's the one always trying to get ahold of me. I can't sign into MSN without her eventually messaging me after 5-10 minutes (she expects me to do it and when I don't she caves in and messages me) and after she'll call me during the day she expects me to call her that night!
 

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I bet she's really looking forward to her birthday. She's probably guessing with her gf's what you're gonna buy her then.

Seriously, don't be her b*tch.
 

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...you guys are so extreme in one direction or another. Either way she was delighted to get them and no matter what I'm still getting ***** when she comes back.

Case closed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I broke up with her. I have an old thread about it somewhere, I believe it was titled "Regaining Power in a Relationship".

After we broke up we had about a month of silence, then we had brief conversation that went sour real quick. She came back to town from college for Christmas, she was giving every girl that I hang out with glares and would freak out if her friends would bring her to a party I was at. Anywho eventually one night at a party she kept being playfully mean to me and I kept brushing her off.

She'd do her drunken drama, "why are you such a prick to me all the time ITISHE". I'd laugh and her and she'd keep getting closer to me, and holding me and asking me to talk with her, I kept denying her that. Sooner or later we ended up just making out on the couch and I ended up ****ing her.

The funny thing is after she left for school again, we got into another fight one night. Anywho she was telling me, "you wouldn't believe how many people tell me to move on from you Itishe, but I just can't". haha that was classic.
 
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