"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Should I send flowers to my ex?
- Thread starter itishe
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ValleyDJing
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Dude, I wouldn't tell her the true story or you're not gonna get any.itishe said:
Kev07
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she's just trying to prod you for gifts.
She bought me gifts for my B-day about two weeks in advance of my B-day. She told me about it. But since we weren't going out and we didn't talk about if we'd be just FB's or what I ended up making out with two of her good friends, and the next week finger ****ing one of them. This pissed her off so she decided to not sedt my present to me. Things came around and she sent it out about 3 days ago.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Listen dude...if you send her flowers to make YOU feel good...then no harm done.
We are not talking here some random chick you just met and she appears to be thoughful enough as to send you something for your birthday.
I do believe, however...that you are paying WAY too much attention to an EX that lives far away. Neglecting some potential girls near by.
Latino I agree I pay her more attention that she deserves, but then again she's the one always trying to get ahold of me. I can't sign into MSN without her eventually messaging me after 5-10 minutes (she expects me to do it and when I don't she caves in and messages me) and after she'll call me during the day she expects me to call her that night!Latinoman said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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After we broke up we had about a month of silence, then we had brief conversation that went sour real quick. She came back to town from college for Christmas, she was giving every girl that I hang out with glares and would freak out if her friends would bring her to a party I was at. Anywho eventually one night at a party she kept being playfully mean to me and I kept brushing her off.
She'd do her drunken drama, "why are you such a prick to me all the time ITISHE". I'd laugh and her and she'd keep getting closer to me, and holding me and asking me to talk with her, I kept denying her that. Sooner or later we ended up just making out on the couch and I ended up ****ing her.
The funny thing is after she left for school again, we got into another fight one night. Anywho she was telling me, "you wouldn't believe how many people tell me to move on from you Itishe, but I just can't". haha that was classic.