"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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should i say yes and go out with her too club?

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ok, ill try kept it short...

Basically this girl who we had a thing going back along untill she LJB me.. so i just cut off contact with her.

Since her phone was stolen she emailed me instead asking me out next week to some club next week.

So I emailed back saying that Id prefer if she came too see me? (since i live nearly 2 hours away from her i couldnt be bothered with me going up there and her interest level flaking on me, so i wanted her too come too see me so id know she REALLY wanted too see me, even though it would cost her alot too get here cause she cant drive)

And she emailed back and just ignorned my question ..and sed so am i deffintly coming out with me then?

... Basically im not sure what too say,.. I sort of want too go but i dont want too waste my time tbh,..and i know asking her too come here is asking alot of her.


Shud I say,...

I will go and see what happens when i get there

insist i wont see her again unless she comes here?

say i cant make it and forget bout it

say im busy, and that we can do it another time and wait till her interest level has increase too the point where she is almost begging too see me, then ill know for sure its worth it

or something else?


.... I need some help here cause im not sure what too do much but I dont want too think bout it too much,.. I mean I like her and theres lots of history there , but I dont want too get pissed about by her.


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She's already ditched you once, what's to stop her from doing it again?

If you're going to go to this club, go for your own enjoyment. Go there and practice some of the stuff you've learned here. Don't drive 2 hours for a woman who LJBFed you. Don't continue to give into her false promises.
 
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Originally posted by Desdinova
She's already ditched you once, what's to stop her from doing it again?

If you're going to go to this club, go for your own enjoyment. Go there and practice some of the stuff you've learned here. Don't drive 2 hours for a woman who LJBFed you. Don't continue to give into her false promises.
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Good points... To answear your 1st question I used too be a complete AFC now im so much more of a man than she once knew ;) lol

It would be for my own enjoyment,..but I could go somewhere local for my own enjoyment,.. although I guess her girl friends will be there so u never know.
 
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Unless you're really and honestly interested in going to this club for your OWN enjoyment, I'd give her a straight up, single word reply, "no".
 
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Why should you go to a club with a girl you already know? Is there any expected outcome by doing this? NO!! If you need a dance with her to start making out: Borrow the pro stereo from your DJ (Disk Jokey;)) friend and reduce your neighbours to despair...

Seriously:

Club = NEW cicks
known chicks = NO club

Say her: sorry, I have no time going to [her club], talk to you later!

Go to another club [if she dicovers: you told her having no time going to HER club... there is no need to lie...] >>> approach ten women that are at least as good looking like she is. At the beginning of the week, drop her a line: "Hey, I have thought about dancing with you again. Okay, come to my place and I´ll show you some moves..."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dont fall for her trap. i bet she just wants to use u as social proof in front of other guys, only for her benefit. Or if she invites u go out to club with her and her friends, then it's a LJBF zone. but hell if that's the case, maybe u can use it to ur advantage and use thoes girls as ur social proof.

BUT IMO, i believe u shouldnt go. if anything, go out and have fun by yourself, and invite her to come. whether or not she comes, u still shoudl have fun solo.
 
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