"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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should i say yes and go out with her too club?

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ok, ill try kept it short...

Basically this girl who we had a thing going back along untill she LJB me.. so i just cut off contact with her.

Since her phone was stolen she emailed me instead asking me out next week to some club next week.

So I emailed back saying that Id prefer if she came too see me? (since i live nearly 2 hours away from her i couldnt be bothered with me going up there and her interest level flaking on me, so i wanted her too come too see me so id know she REALLY wanted too see me, even though it would cost her alot too get here cause she cant drive)

And she emailed back and just ignorned my question ..and sed so am i deffintly coming out with me then?

... Basically im not sure what too say,.. I sort of want too go but i dont want too waste my time tbh,..and i know asking her too come here is asking alot of her.


Shud I say,...

I will go and see what happens when i get there

insist i wont see her again unless she comes here?

say i cant make it and forget bout it

say im busy, and that we can do it another time and wait till her interest level has increase too the point where she is almost begging too see me, then ill know for sure its worth it

or something else?


.... I need some help here cause im not sure what too do much but I dont want too think bout it too much,.. I mean I like her and theres lots of history there , but I dont want too get pissed about by her.


Cheers Alex
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She's already ditched you once, what's to stop her from doing it again?

If you're going to go to this club, go for your own enjoyment. Go there and practice some of the stuff you've learned here. Don't drive 2 hours for a woman who LJBFed you. Don't continue to give into her false promises.
 
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Originally posted by Desdinova
She's already ditched you once, what's to stop her from doing it again?

If you're going to go to this club, go for your own enjoyment. Go there and practice some of the stuff you've learned here. Don't drive 2 hours for a woman who LJBFed you. Don't continue to give into her false promises.
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Good points... To answear your 1st question I used too be a complete AFC now im so much more of a man than she once knew ;) lol

It would be for my own enjoyment,..but I could go somewhere local for my own enjoyment,.. although I guess her girl friends will be there so u never know.
 
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Unless you're really and honestly interested in going to this club for your OWN enjoyment, I'd give her a straight up, single word reply, "no".
 
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Why should you go to a club with a girl you already know? Is there any expected outcome by doing this? NO!! If you need a dance with her to start making out: Borrow the pro stereo from your DJ (Disk Jokey;)) friend and reduce your neighbours to despair...

Seriously:

Club = NEW cicks
known chicks = NO club

Say her: sorry, I have no time going to [her club], talk to you later!

Go to another club [if she dicovers: you told her having no time going to HER club... there is no need to lie...] >>> approach ten women that are at least as good looking like she is. At the beginning of the week, drop her a line: "Hey, I have thought about dancing with you again. Okay, come to my place and I´ll show you some moves..."
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dont fall for her trap. i bet she just wants to use u as social proof in front of other guys, only for her benefit. Or if she invites u go out to club with her and her friends, then it's a LJBF zone. but hell if that's the case, maybe u can use it to ur advantage and use thoes girls as ur social proof.

BUT IMO, i believe u shouldnt go. if anything, go out and have fun by yourself, and invite her to come. whether or not she comes, u still shoudl have fun solo.
 
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