Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should i say something or not?

Marc_zeus

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Here is the situation with two of my friends, lets call them A and B. They dont know each other, different parts of my social circle. A is older ( 44 y.o ), in general good guy, and he is wealthy by standards in my country. Due to his job he is often on the road, and because of that he acctually asked some barrista in restaurant in my town to be her suggar daddy. Barrista is young girl ( 20 y.o. ) very attractive. Actually he offered her 150 euros every time they hook up, and she agreed . He told me this in confidence, because we are good friend, and even show me some sms excange between them. I wouldnt mind that, but the thing is my other good friend and colleague B ( 31 y.o ) asked her out on a date and she accepted. He thinks she is a great girl etc. Should i say something? I dont want to betray trust of A, but on the other hand this girl is a ***** and i dont want to see my friend actually dating such girl.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd definitely tell a about it. See how they react, particularly to the idea of the yiu telling b. These things rarely stay secret, particularly once one part knows, so better to be open, but the payment stuff adds another level of complexity/discretion doesn't it.

Nothing worse than finding out your friends knew about something for ages involving your personal life and finding out about it through someone else. They may come around if they think your intentions were sincere or could end the friendship.

Would you want to be told if you were in either a or b's shoes?
 
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metalwater

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see no evil; hear no evil, speak no evil.

if your younger friend gets into a monogamous LTR with her then blow the whistle if she is not loyal if you want. otherwise she isn't really doing anything wrong unless she has an exclusive with one of them. seeing multiple guys is expected. chances are there is a third+ guys also. taking some money from the older guy makes it convenient for him and his life style also.

no crime yet and you might want a reputation for yourself of discretion.
 

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You stay out of it. It’s a can of worms otherwise and not worth the drama. Your reputation will end up tarnished more than anything and that’s the worst possible outcome.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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None of your business. They are both grown men. B is going on a date, not marrying this woman. For all you know all he wants is to get what A is paying 150 Euros for.
 

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Here is the situation with two of my friends, lets call them A and B. They dont know each other, different parts of my social circle. A is older ( 44 y.o ), in general good guy, and he is wealthy by standards in my country. Due to his job he is often on the road, and because of that he acctually asked some barrista in restaurant in my town to be her suggar daddy. Barrista is young girl ( 20 y.o. ) very attractive. Actually he offered her 150 euros every time they hook up, and she agreed . He told me this in confidence, because we are good friend, and even show me some sms excange between them. I wouldnt mind that, but the thing is my other good friend and colleague B ( 31 y.o ) asked her out on a date and she accepted. He thinks she is a great girl etc. Should i say something? I dont want to betray trust of A, but on the other hand this girl is a ***** and i dont want to see my friend actually dating such girl.
Either way you are going to end up as the illoyal cu'nt to one of the parties and lose their friendship.
Stay out of this can of worms and let it just play out by itself.
 

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Here is the situation with two of my friends, lets call them A and B. They dont know each other, different parts of my social circle. A is older ( 44 y.o ), in general good guy, and he is wealthy by standards in my country. Due to his job he is often on the road, and because of that he acctually asked some barrista in restaurant in my town to be her suggar daddy. Barrista is young girl ( 20 y.o. ) very attractive. Actually he offered her 150 euros every time they hook up, and she agreed . He told me this in confidence, because we are good friend, and even show me some sms excange between them. I wouldnt mind that, but the thing is my other good friend and colleague B ( 31 y.o ) asked her out on a date and she accepted. He thinks she is a great girl etc. Should i say something? I dont want to betray trust of A, but on the other hand this girl is a ***** and i dont want to see my friend actually dating such girl.
Tell her that you also want to be her sugar daddy. Then all three of you will be eskimo brothers.
 
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